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@KaCi@autistics.life · 2d ago

Double (?) empathy problem: Autistic person asks for handling a situation in a specific way, that would accommodate their needs. Allistic person: "I would prefer do it differently." Autistic person explains in detail that they are asking for this accomodation, because it is necessary to make the situation accessible for them, not a nice to have preference. Allistic person: "You don't have to explain yourself." Autistic person: "Yeah, but I obviously have to. I wish I wouldn't and that you would have taken my need for accommodation seriously in the first place, but unfortunately that wasn't the case." Allistic person: "No need to be rude. You are so sensitive." Autistic person: 😐 #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #neurodivergent

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@thereaders@disabled.social in mutual_aid · 4d ago

Hello friends! I'm hoping to raise $22 just to buy a few grocery items absolutely anything helps! 💕 etrans: tasiathereader@gmail.com https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/ourinsatiabesouls #BlackMutualAid #MutualAidRequest #BlackMastodon #queermutualaid #HelpFolksLive2026 #Queercrowdfund #disability #disabilityaid #actuallyautistic #DisabilityCrowdFund #MutualAid @mutual_aid@hexbear.net @mutual_aid@starflower.space @MutualAidVisibility@mastodon.social @anarchomutual@freeradical.zone @blackfedi@fedigroups.social

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K.J. Elphinstone

@KatyElphinstone@mas.to · 5d ago

Deficit or difference? There are a few things about autism that it takes quite a lot of ingenuity to consistently frame them as negative. I've listed some of them here... A thread 🧵 ⬇️ #Autism #Neurodiversity #Neurodivergent #ActuallyAutistic 1/13

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Elisabeth M

@independentpen@mas.to · Jun 11, 2026

My fifth grader is going through a wringer, which will surely only increase next year, sixth grade, new school. He's undiagnosed-probably-definitely-autistic with a big tender heart. And certain kids (who used to be friends) are doing little things that cut him to the bone, probably(?) because they know they can get a rise out of him. I know what I did to survive school at his age, but I don't know my strategies were best. How do you advise your kid so as to minimize normie-inflicted trauma and preserve the availability and tenderness of that beautiful ND heart? What strategies do you advise? How do you prevent hiding, masking, toughening and shame? #actuallyAutistic #askingAutistics @autistics@fedigroups.social

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@grim_elsewhere@lgbtqia.space · Jun 10, 2026

So question for the #ActuallyAutistic adult crowd, particularly those with selective mutism and/or social anxiety. I'm looking for communication cards to help me in new social situations where I may not know anybody or what to expect. I tried searching online, and everything I've found is very infantalizing which I don't want. Free and digital is also best, as I don't have much money but I do have a printer. Any suggestions? Please boost. Thank you!

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Willa

@wplalonde@lgbtqia.space · Jun 06, 2026

Guess who was able to actually watch the noisy local dairy parade from outside rather than hiding away inside the house, thanks to her Loop Experience earplugs? #ActuallyAutistic

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@d1@autistics.life · Jun 04, 2026

@autistics@fedigroups.social There used to be a forum about #Autism called “Wrongplanet”. It’s been offline for several months now. It had a huge number of interesting threads, all the way back to about 2012.

One of the best threads was a “Megathread”, where each #ActuallyAutistic forum member contributed the best boiled-down advice they could muster, for the other Autistic people - how to understand Neurotypicals.

It took me days to read it. There was a ton of good advice, which hit me like a ton of bricks. I saved my favorite posts, and made a .pdf out of it; straight-up copying and pasting - even leaving grammar errors intact. I made a nice .pdf out of it, formatting it for a phone screen. It’s all I have left of that forum to remember it by.

If you are easily provoked, and are triggered easily by words which you don’t think are politically correct, don’t read it!!

If you’d like to read the .pdf, here it is:

“The Autism Social Rule Book”: https://toque.im/docs/Understanding_Neurotypicals-for_the_Autistic.pdf

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@diametrijenesis@lgbtqia.space · Jun 04, 2026

#Overstimulation and #dissociation have really, really ramped up this past week or two. Instrumental music on earbuds has been helping a lot. Helps me reestablish a boundary between what's inside me and what isn't. I must cultivate comfort. Always. But especially so when raw. My dog is sleeping with her head on my thigh (painfully bittersweet bc she's very deep into her golden years and I'm fucking feeling it lately). Listening to music that's holding me. Half-watching a YouTube channel of cycling live world webcams because, for whatever mix of reasons, I get into moods where it's incredibly comforting to have this on. #ActuallyAutistic

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Petra

@PetraPhoenix@beige.party · Jun 03, 2026

Good Morning. Beige be with you

Today is a big day. It is the last full day of my degree. Hand in is midday tomorrow! I have 500 words left to write, then this afternoon I am going to go over the essay I finished last week. I am quite emotional about being so close to finishing. It has been over 5 years since I started this degree and in that time the worst times of my life have happened. I have also been diagnosed with ADHD and autism in this time. This is the 3rd time I have attempted to get a degree and the fact I am now so close, at the age of 49, is huge for me! So please, if you see this, cheer me on today and send me words of encouragement! #GoodMorning #BeigeBlessings #Study #ADHD #ActuallyAutistic #Today

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Luke Orion 🏳️‍⚧️♾️🥄

@LukeOrion@indiepocalypse.social · Mar 17, 2026

I got scheduled for a top surgery consultation today, and I’m really anxious to achieve this finally. I’d love to make art for people to make sure this can happen as smoothly as possible (financially speaking) because I’ve spent a long time trying to get top surgery. It would help more than I can express, because the dysphoria has been destroying me. I take custom art commissions and sell my book (ebook & audiobook), my photography, and donated character adopts on my Ko-Fi

https://ko-fi.com/lukeorion Edit: it would take approximately 450 digital art commissions to pay for my top surgery. This is a lot.. I wonder who will be the first to get art in the name of this goal? My partner @magicalgrrrl@indiepocalypse.social and I also have a fundraiser to help towards the surgery costs & to get us a small vehicle https://fundrazr.com/42gga9 Boosts, shares of the fundraiser, and any commissions or contributions would be so appreciated

Photos are of our cats Max and Lenny, and Betty’s fursona that I designed 🥰 #lgbtqia #crowdfunding #mutualaidsaveslives #kofi #actuallyautistic #transgender #transcrowdfund #fundraiser #mutualaid #buyintoart #digitalartcommissions #artcommissionsopen #commissionsopen #disabledartist #kofiartist #digitalart #furryart #petportrait #artistsonmastodon #fedihire

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Church of Jeff

@jeffowski@mastodon.world · May 11, 2026

#ActuallyAutistic #cptsd #trauma #anxiety #depression #mentalillness #mentalhealth #masking #HighFunctioning #Autism #autistic

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SleepyCatten (Metastable, Skill Regression Arc)

@SleepyCatten@cultofshiv.wtf · May 07, 2026

Sharing another impactful video from AuDHD Hub that really hits close to home 🥺

Burnout in Autism And ADHD (Why “Just Try Harder” Was Never The Answer Link has been x.jort.link-ed to hide the thumbnail image for eye contact reasons. We'll paste the transcript in a post below. #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #AuDHD #neurodivergent #neurodivergence #neurospicy #neurospiciness #AuDHDHub

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Sean C.

@filmfreak75@mastodon.social · May 06, 2026

@autistics@fedigroups.social #ActuallyAutistic one of the (allistic run) affinity groups at work has started posting employer job ads in their Mutual Aid channel and it feels inappropriate to me for some reason. the channel defines itself as a place to: • Share requests for mutual aid or community support • Offer help, resources, or solidarity • Ask for information related to navigating difficult situations • Signal support or check in on one another

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K.J. Elphinstone

@KatyElphinstone@mas.to · May 06, 2026

Anyone still wanting a reason to not do shitty things? 😂 #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #adhd #Neurodivergent

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Pablo Tabula Rasa

@setmeravelles@lgbtqia.space · May 05, 2026

If you can’t handle me at my autistic meltdown, you don’t get to see me at my autistic joy. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

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Pablo Tabula Rasa

@setmeravelles@lgbtqia.space · May 05, 2026

Realising the judgmental tone of how neurotypical boomers speak (or write online) is a major trigger for anxiety and meltdowns. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

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@undefined_variable@mementomori.social · May 05, 2026

There's so many times I start to reply to a toot, just to realize there is no possible way I can legibly convey what I actually want to say in this space, even with the 10k characters my instance generously provides. So I just close the reply and die a teensy bit inside. #ActuallyAutistic

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@KaCi@autistics.life · May 05, 2026

Why is it so difficult for autistic people to find friends and partners? I read some post about this during the last days and here are my thoughts on the topic. The short answer is that it not because there’s something wrong with us. It’s because we are a minority group, we are very different from each other and have limited options to find each other. These factors are strongly intertwined. Yes, we are not perfect, unresolved trauma, masking and internalized ableism play a role and we all have to work on it. But at a certain point we cannot do this work on our own, we need other people to practice what we learned, to create new data for our nervous system and if we do not have these people, we are trapped in a vicious circle of burnout and loneliness. This brings me to the second point, our limited options. Many of the autistic people around my age (I am in my 40s) who are similar to me, are probably also in a similar situation. They are either trapped in poverty or a relationship they don’t want to be in. They do not live, where they want to live, they are not able to travel or even leave the house for longer than an hour. Many of them don´t even know that they are autistic. So, there are limited options to meet each other. I go outside with Beagle Lumi every day, but in my conservative neighborhood, I won’t find my people. I can get along with them, but they are not my people. And online? Dating apps are overwhelming asf and the autistic people similar to me will think that too, so I won’t find my people there. Realistically, I have the best chances to find my people here on Mastodon. But most of us have rejection sensitivity and are so burnt out, that reaching out to a new person is not an easy thing. We do not have the energy for it. Then there are our differences. We experience the world intensively, we didn’t go to an autistic kindergarten, nobody explained to us how to cope with this world. As a consequence, we are not only very different concerning our needs and special interests, but we are also very different in our coping strategies. During the last years I had several chats, friendships, even intimate relationships with other AuDHD people online. Most of them were not suitable for a long-term relationship, because of our differences or difficult circumstances and that’s ok. But they were enriching my life, they made me grow, they were inspiring and validating. Realizing that you are not a good fit can be hurtful and frustrating, getting to know new people takes a lot of energy and we are already low on energy. But it’s amazing how much energy connecting with another AuDHD person can give you, it made me and the people I connected with feel decades younger and so happy. I found the best friend one could wish for here on Mastodon. So, I will continue to write these posts, encouraging people to chat with me and I do not feel ashamed for it. I am done with feeling shame for having to deal with being a multiply marginalized person in unconventional ways. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #neurodivergent @autistics@fedigroups.social

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@adelinej@piaille.fr · May 04, 2026

@iamada@tech.lgbt I forgot to mention this wonderful ressource about self diagnostic by @alice@lgbtqia.space https://codeberg.org/alicewatson/asd-self-dx/ #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD

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@janneke@todon.nl · May 04, 2026

@stux@mstdn.social Oh! You're right! I never realized that we only remember (we're only supposed to remember) /Dutch/ casualties. How interesting that I got this wrong all this time. Thinking that casualties of other nationalities would als be worth remembering. Silly me! #actuallyautistic

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