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@adelinej@piaille.fr wow!
J'avoue que ça me surprend! (Dans le bon sens, bien sûr). Tant mieux!

RE: @tante@tldr.nettime.org

This article is an absolute must read

#noAI

@adelinej@piaille.fr hahaha that's nice to hear!

@adelinej@piaille.fr félicitations pour avoir atteint ton objectif!! C'est vraiment un bel accomplissement, bravo!

I am currently in the process of evaluating a career change (yes, I hate AI that much). I've been working with a career counselling for the past couple months and we're close to the end of the process.

Before my next appointment, I wanted to "shadow" professionals in a certain field to get an idea of their day-to-day. At first I didn't have the answers I was (impatiently) waiting for, so I asked to push the appointment.
As I got the responses, I now wanted to have the appointment before the weekend to help me process my thinking.

Their answer was yes, but with a fee, to cover the management of so many changes.

I couldn't accept (honestly I found that ridiculous, their professional life revolves around appointments). She didn't mentioned their agreement, but I went and check and even though this is many changes, it doesn't fit into their agreement (meaning I shouldn't have to pay the fee) so I told them.

They were really pissed at me, saying indirectly how ungrateful I was being, after everything they "gave" me for free (certain rebates, longer appointments, work in-between appointments, etc), and that they had kids to feed too. And they retracted the offer for a Friday appointment that they offered me before (I thought it'd be win-win to fill their day)

I responded by saying I was grateful for those things mentioned (which they offered to me without me asking).

But now I'm torn. My usual reaction would be to drop the whole thing, cancel my next appointment and never interact with them again.
I'm not sure I feel comfortable being in their presence. Something in the dynamic got broken.

Am I overreacting?

I think I would get valuable insights in that appointment (which would likely be the last anyway). But I think it would make me very very anxious and uncomfortable.

Oh, and I picked that particular counsellor because they were specialized in neurodivergent people.

#ActuallyAutistic

@adelinej@piaille.fr it was confirmed I'm not adhd, so I guess it's an autistic trait.
And it has kicked me a few times.

I hate waiting for people to respond to my messages. Why is it soooooooo long? How hard is it??
This is weighing on me like crazy.

Are other autistic people here impatient for some things?

For me, if I see any tiny tiny progress, I'm good. But nothing? I'm losing my mind.

#ActuallyAutistic

@maaikees@sw-development-is.social the photos are amazing! I especially appreciate the artistry and originality. If you ever write that post, let us know, I'm curious about the reasons and the how! I wish to be able to achieve similar results, it's impressive. I was first inspired to do strength training by the "Swole Women" (shesabeast.co) Casey Johnston. Being strong, feeling strong, is awesome. Thank you for sharing! Edit: changed for a better url.

Je viens juste de réaliser qu'il existait une page web avec tous les liens: https://smartlink.ausha.co/petits-pas-sante-le-podcast/serie-portrait-001-autisme-invisible-et-masking-avec-francois-olivier Je m'excuse pour ceux qui n'avaient pas d'accès (je réalise aussi que mes 2 liens étaient des liens pour iPhone). Vous avez donc accès à tous les liens par le site web. #actuallyAutisticFr

@adelinej @tinker Yeah, I work in development and I am in great dispair, having lost all my colleagues. I thought I was part of a community that loved repeatable, deterministic, pragmatic things. These people are gone. They've drank the Kool-Aid. I can see the cognitive surrendering happening. It's bad.

@adelinej@piaille.fr @autistics@fedigroups.social
Before my diagnosis, I was treating anxiety with my shrinks. One of the reframing that helped me the most was the relentless questioning "is this problem/stress/etc actual or potential"? This helped remind me that right now I'm safe. Even during the event in question I could use that question to help me realize that right now I'm safe.
When problems occur, they are actual and need addressing, but within this framework I feel empowered or maybe justified to address it.
I hope this helps a bit...

Chère communauté #actuallyAutisticFr
J'ai été invité à parler d'autisme et de mon parcours sur un podcast.

Lien sur Overcast
https://overcast.fm/+AA-Q_efzqY8
Ou Apple Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/petits-pas-sant%C3%A9-le-podcast/id1651644210?i=1000764287345

Si jamais vous l'écoutez, n'hésitez pas à me donner vos commentaires!

Mon objectif est d'éviter à quelqu'un de tomber en burn-out autistique par méconnaissance de sa condition. Vous avez donc le droit de partager si vous pensez à quelqu'un!

P.S. c'est en français, avec l'accent québécois. Je crois pas que ce soit un frein, mais je sais que c'est moins facile pour certains.

@amelieh2@framapiaf.org si il est pas trop tard... Tout ce qui est cétogène va faire l'affaire. Un morceau de viande à ton goût avec un légume en accompagnement, pas exemple. Il existe aussi des pâtes faites de légumineuses, j'aime bien. Les pains sans gluten sont aussi assez bons, ça peut dépanner.

@c_gajewski@mastodon.social I really appreciate your input, thank you! It is simultaneously what I thought and better than expected. I'm happy for you and wish you success with your book. I'm still up for reading it, however possible.

@c_gajewski@mastodon.social I'm very interested in reading your book. I can pay for it and do the review. But is there any other format then epub? I understand it's the most convenient, but I tend to forget about books that are only on my screen... if not I'll make the effort! 😆 I'm also interested in knowing more about your process for writing the book. How difficult was it? Was it beneficial for your own process/mental health?

@broadwaybabyto my hypothesis was that it was because of their belief that anybody can achieve anything, while downplaying the support system they benefited from to get to where they are, that caused them to blame the homeless for their situations. To be clear, I agree with you.

@rebekka_m@fnordon.de thank you, will check it out!

@ArtbybilliSoon@mastodon.social thank you for your offer. At this time I'm not looking.

@SteveClough@metalhead.club those are very good suggestions. I'm following that thread, hoping to find someone I trust enough for the process. Thanks!

@badpenny@alaskan.social this was my first instinct as well (ask the tattoo artist directly), but I was afraid they would prefer clear instructions (as opposed to many back and forth of "no, not like that, more like this", etc). That part might be projection from me, I admit! Thanks for the feedback!

@Moss@beige.party that makes perfect sense, thank you!

@Moss@beige.party thank you for your advice. Are there any red flags I should be aware of when searching? (Asides from artistic taste)

I'm thinking about getting my first tattoo. It seems best if I work on the illustration first.

I'm looking for advice, you can tell me if any of my assumptions is wrong or if I should think differently about any part of it.

So let's say I want to commission an artist for a 15x15 cm drawing, how much should I expect to pay?

Where can I find such artist?

How do you find the right tattoo artist?

What was your process and what did you appreciate about it?

#tattoo

@matricardo@mas.to exactly! I mean... I understand that having physical pain from someone eating a crunchy snack in the same house as me is a different brain wiring, but feeling outrage at useless AI things taking up so much electricity and water (besides their non-ethical creation process) should be universal.

@matricardo@mas.to a lot of good insights, thank you for sharing! The sense of justice is definitely something I'm learning to deal with. It's like if the world can only exists if the rules are followed by all and everyone works for the common good. Any injustice, trivial or life threatening, is like my world view shatters and nothing is left. Not a fun feeling. It's also worst when all the rest of the world is not in equal panic about the injustice. I think, at least for me, that rigidity in that context is about survival. Trying to avoid the immense anxiety that comes with the injustice. Follow the rules and pieces will fall back together. (I know it won't and wouldn't, but my brain doesn't know)