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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️

@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw
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Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both.

I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

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Joined February 22, 2023
Pronouns:
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Links:
https://linktr.ee/tonyamariel
Location:
Seattle, USA

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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Aug 04, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Elleaster@ohai.social
@Elleaster@ohai.social @tillybridges@mastodon.social picks desk up flips it again for emphasis
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Jul 21, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw

OK, time for a poll! When making a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, how many utensils do you use?

3: One for the PB, one for the J, and a third to spread them
0.0% (0)
1: Who cares about cross contamination, it's all my stuff anyway!
43.2% (16)
2: One for the PB and one for the J, the same utensil to spread each
40.5% (15)
Other?
16.2% (6)
0: I use my fingers!
0.0% (0)
37 votes Poll closed
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Jul 20, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @faithisleaping@anarres.family
@faithisleaping@anarres.family Get the normal one, and then go on Etsy (or even here, really) and find a textile artist who can make you an R2-D2 slip cover. May end up costing the same in the end, but the extra money will go to an artist. :D
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Jun 29, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange
@JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange There are very specific times when butter is an "ingredient" and should be unnoticed as part of the overall food. Other times it is a "condiment" and is intended to be tasted and appreciated for itself. It's also fascinating to me that "sandwich/wrap/burrito" creates a context in which foods that, without the wrapper, should never touch, not only are allowed to but are better for having done so.
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Jun 23, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @ParadeGrotesque@mastodon.sdf.org
@ParadeGrotesque@mastodon.sdf.org @maxleibman@beige.party I was going to make that joke, but figured someone had already done it! 😄
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Jun 23, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @CharlotteEowyn@chaosfem.tw
@CharlotteEowyn@chaosfem.tw That's weird. My instructor did not do that, and I'm glad. I don't want to emulate someone else, I want to discover my voice.
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Jun 21, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @david_chisnall@infosec.exchange
@david_chisnall@infosec.exchange Oh no, us olds are really pissed about it, too.
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 18, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @redsad@ohai.social
@redsad@ohai.social At a very young age, my child had a sudden epiphany in the car seat eating drive thru chicken nuggets. Having taken a large bite, she proudly pointed to the meat and announced "this is the chicken..." then pointed to the breading and finished, "...and this is the nugget!"
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 11, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @tillybridges@mastodon.social
@tillybridges@mastodon.social I remember the days of the dining table having a nice tablecloth and placemats, along with other decorations, that were removed from the table for actual meals, then returned afterward.
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 09, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw

Decided to christen the new mini muffin trays with brownie bites!

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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 09, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
@Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io and it likes you! 😍
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 09, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @SymTrkl@merping.synth.download
@SymTrkl@merping.synth.download
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 08, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @SymTrkl@merping.synth.download
@SymTrkl@merping.synth.download When a sandwich is an excuse to break out the homemade pickles! (Red onion on the sandwich, carrot sticks and ginger on the plate)
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 08, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw

OMGOMGOMGOMG

Y'ALL!

I got called "pretty" last night!

And not a compliment on my hair or clothes, which happens often enough and I love it, but like "Oh, you're pretty!"

By a complete stranger (as I was introducing myself and inviting people to play the bar trivia I host)!

How does that happen?

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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 06, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Infrogmation@mastodon.online
@Infrogmation If I can't access your content without ads or giving you my identity in some way, I can live without it.
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 05, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @julie@merida.hair
@julie New greeting dropped! "Wassup, Polybags? Stay biodegradable!"
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 03, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @YouShallNotPass@chaosfem.tw
@YouShallNotPass@chaosfem.tw In what way does iy punish text?
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 02, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @YouShallNotPass@chaosfem.tw
@YouShallNotPass@chaosfem.tw Yeah, that's my point, how totally inaccessible it is. Esp on Instagram, where the "video" ends, and I get the "replay / next" options covering up what I am trying to read...
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 02, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw

Ok, autistic need to understand something puzzling. This is not a sub-toot, or passive aggressive anything, just genuine confusion.

Why are there so many posts that are images of text, instead of just text? Or worse, reels of an image of text? What purpose is served?

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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 01, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @SymTrkl@merping.synth.download
@SymTrkl@merping.synth.download At this point, cucumber pickles are a Trauma ™️ , so I just pretend they don't exist 😀
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 01, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @SymTrkl@merping.synth.download
@SymTrkl@merping.synth.download Cucumbers are pretty much the only pickles I don't like. I blame the pickles on McDonald's hamburgers as a child, when I was told "just pick them off" but they infected the burger and nobody understood that this was a problem (or that I was autistic) and they haunt me to this day. But I love a good Moroccan pickle platter!
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 01, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @SymTrkl@merping.synth.download
@SymTrkl@merping.synth.download The peppers and onions are staples. This is my first attempt with the carrots and ginger. 🤞
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 01, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw
Fresh peanut butter time!
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 01, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw

And what is this craziness? Peanuts in a blender? #WhatIsTonyaMarieCooking

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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 01, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw
Yep, it's refrigerator pickle day!
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · May 01, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw

What's this? Jars of thinly sliced produce and a pot of vinegar brine heating up? #WhatIsTonyaMarieCooking this time?

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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 20, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @CharlotteEowyn@chaosfem.tw
@CharlotteEowyn Have you tried Boob Tape? That's how I get my cleavage, either with or without a bra. I use the tape to squish the boobs together, then if the top doesn't have padding I'll either use silicone nipple covers or a bra (depending on the shape of the top) if I need coverage or "aggressive nipple" reduction (my nipples became extremely aggressive on E!).
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 20, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
@Impossible_PhD And it's a damn fun read! I could barely put it down! ❤️
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 20, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Dawn@chaosfem.tw
@Dawn @FinalGirl Someone I knew years ago had a small 4 leaf clover. "If you see the clover, you're getting lucky!"
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 17, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @UncleDuke1969@universeodon.com
@UncleDuke1969@universeodon.com "Carl, I demand that this dog be removed immediately! Mongo is appalled!"
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @autistic_enby@hachyderm.io
@autistic_enby Sounds a but like the improv game where person A is giving a speech/presentation in a nonsense language, and person B is their translator. 😁 @Impossible_PhD
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw
Thank you everyone who has replied or even just faved my message. Support helps so much!
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
@Impossible_PhD Oh, like Smartypants! https://watch.dropout.tv/smartypants
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @meadow@lgbtqia.space
@meadow Last week ended with "After you defeat the mutated troll, you look around and see the entrance to the cave you have been looking for." We're level 15 and (other than the one fight that was mercifully short after a brief panic; all hail the sorcerer with Hold Monster!) fully rested. It should be a good session!
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @meadow@lgbtqia.space
@meadow I'm aiming my sights at my 7pm online D&D game. If I can save up enough spoons for that, I'll call the day rescued. :D
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @riversidewings@anarres.family
@riversidewings 🫂
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
@Impossible_PhD I may have missed an earlier post by you, but what is a "powerpoint party" ?
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw

Has anyone ever woken up in burnout?

Yesterday was a completely normal day. I made breakfast, relaxed, tidied up, baked some pretzels, played games, went out for dinner and trivia and socialized. Home at normal time, decent night's sleep.

This morning as I sat eating breakfast, I could tell my mana was low. Allergies are beating me up a bit. Had to put in earplugs while my wife was in a video meeting. I took some OTC meds and laid back down.

On getting up, I can tell this is going to be a no-bones day. As I am explaining this to my wife, I burst into tears.

I have no idea what, if anything, led to this, but I do not approve. Burnout should at least have a proximate cause I can point to! 😭

So yeah. Gonna be a "lights low, ANC ear protection, eat leftovers" day.

#actuallyAutistic #burnout

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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @SymTrkl@anarres.family
@SymTrkl But also, thank you for the incredible compliment of placing my tits as second to Zoe's! I would have put myself much further back in the field! ❤️ @Impossible_PhD
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @SymTrkl@anarres.family

@SymTrkl Well, if I want cleavage I have to pull them together. I acknowledge having pretty great** tits, but they are wide set, so not much in the way of cleavage.

** I would have preferred naturally big, but accept that I needed to go store bought. At almost*** 60, the perkiness of implants don't look quite right****.

*** I'll be 59 calendar years old this year, despite feeling 40 and being in my 5th year of second puberty.

**** I expect a certain amount of sag and softness that isn't present.

@Impossible_PhD

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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 15, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
@Impossible_PhD It was actually better earlier in the evening ... that pic is after the boob tape pulled loose (I hadn't used the right length). When she made the comment I had much more cleavage!
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 14, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Jorsh@beige.party
@Jorsh @kim Which, by the way, is Otto. He is credited!
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 14, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw
@Impossible_PhD Found the picture!
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 13, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
@Impossible_PhD Gorgeous! A few weeks ago, for hosting my trivia night, I was wearing a long, thin crystal pendant on a necklace that dips just into my cleavage along with a low cut sundress and some boob tape for cleavage enhancement. One of my players commented, "Your necklace is ... distracting." (Insert standard lesbian "Was she flirting?" thoughts...)
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Apr 06, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io
@Impossible_PhD@hachyderm.io In the immortal words of the Barenaked Ladies, I like vanilla It's the finest of the flavours People always look at me weird when I try out the vanilla ice cream anywhere we go. A good vanilla tells you you're in a good place.
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Mar 27, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @FinalGirl@blackqueer.life
@FinalGirl 🎉 but 🫂
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Mar 26, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @catsalad@infosec.exchange
@catsalad Boosted, faved, and replied for emphasis! ❤️❤️❤️
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Mar 18, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @0x4d6165@transfem.social
@0x4d6165 @chrisisgr8 @Tessa I would say most algebraic functions are bouba, while step functions and any function with a discontinuity would be kiki. And there is probably a kiki-bouba spectrum that functions can be ordered onto.
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Mar 17, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
Replying to @lo@framapiaf.org
@lo@framapiaf.org That is a trip! I could totally stare at that for a very long time ...
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Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️ @TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw · Mar 17, 2026
Tonya Marie 🏳️‍⚧️
@TonyaMarie@chaosfem.tw

Middle-aged trans woman in Seattle. Semi-retired math teacher and coder, full-time housewife. Autistic, spouse to ADHD, parent to both. I love cooking, boardgames, RPGs, and SF/F.

chaosfem.tw
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@JenWithGravy Mood.
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