Post #1342188
2025-11-09 16:53 UTC
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@phillmv@hachyderm.io 2025-11-10 22:28
i spent weeks writing this essay, time i could've spent with my family, enjoying myself, literally anything else it's resonated with hundreds of people, which is nice, thank you all for the nice messages. i didn't cry while writing this essay but i just had a string of dms with a rails core member, and i'm crying now. people who sit on rails core may not feel like David is humiliating them, but i don't think you're paying attention. i'm sad to see that my words were wasted.
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@wndxlori@ruby.social 2025-11-09 18:52
@phillmv I love everything about this blog. As I am retired, I definitely don’t want to be involved in that stuff anymore, but you nailed quite a few points 1/2
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@wndxlori@ruby.social 2025-11-09 18:53
@phillmv One quibble. Parts of David’s brainworm were visible long before you noticed. His example was, in no small part, responsible for the early dearth of women in Rails, and at Rails conferences. And we (Women In Rails panel, 2009) called him on it. In retrospect, that experience just led him to hide the signs until his money & power let him give free rein to it again. 2/2
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@stepheneb@ruby.social 2025-11-09 19:07
@phillmv Great essay. Very similar to my experience. Started using rails and learned Ruby in 2007 and in two weeks had a prototype web application working that provided web access to dynamically generated Java applications for teachers and students to do science with computational models and sensors and probes. Replaced a Java web application that had been in development for over a year. The huge teacher workshop that was scheduled in one month worked thanks to Ruby/Rails. 1/2
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@glyph@mastodon.social 2025-11-09 19:14
@phillmv absolutely get your anguish here. which makes it a little surreal to read the bits of this where Python and Sorbet are catching strays, as I have been on a similar emotional journey but see those things as bulwarks against the stuff that pains us both rather than part of the same pattern of decay. can't front though, I am seriously thinking about buying a nondescript navy polo now.
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@cap_ybarra@mastodon.social 2025-11-09 19:34
@phillmv this is incredible work. bravo!
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@carlana@tech.lgbt 2025-11-09 20:29
@phillmv Oh you know Hampton too. Cool!
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@mav@masto.hackers.town 2025-11-09 21:14
@phillmv This is really well done, thank you for sharing.
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@ipd@universeodon.com 2025-11-10 01:05
@phillmv You never promoted kindness and are starting now? I'm betting that maybe you consider continuing to support kindness, more now than ever before.
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@unsafelyhotboots@sharkey.world 2025-11-10 03:20
@phillmv@hachyderm.io I am not involved in Ruby in the slightest but I was moved by your description of the impact of dog whistles. Thank you for writing this.
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@shane@d20.social 2025-11-10 10:23
@phillmv What a well written essay - thank you for spending time on it.
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@mislav@hachyderm.io 2025-11-10 10:38
@phillmv Thank you; this resonates 🖤
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@oinak@ruby.social 2025-11-10 12:31
RE: https://hachyderm.io/@phillmv/115520781380582845 @phillmv I got to ruby and rails in 2006, it changed my life, and a lot of your story resonates with me, I have volunteered, spoken and organized events, I have a ruby tattooed on my arm... and now I don't know if I am more angry or more sad. You matter, you should be able to live and thrive unquestioned and unburdened by the fear and hate of those who failed to become decent people. Please go on being strong, kind and amazing.
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@fazalmajid@social.vivaldi.net 2025-11-10 14:24
@phillmv Not a Rubyist or Rails user, but it seems to me there are only two options: either the Ruby core team takes over Rails like it did RubyGems from the RubyCentral putsch, or you move on to something else. Preferably Rust, Go or Node based because in the post Moore's Law era, inefficient languages like Ruby or Python need to go. I disagree that DHH is whistling, his explicit endorsement of an open racist like Tommy Robinson is as clear a statement of racism as it gets.
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@rachel@transitory.social 2025-11-10 16:56
@phillmv@hachyderm.io that is a great essay and really aligns with much of my ongoing disappointment with huge swaths of tech. In a sense it is also another nudge that I need to make big changes this upcoming year. It feels like 2025 is just a build up in so many ways :heart_trans:
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@soaproot@sfba.social 2025-11-10 17:57
@phillmv Good article. There are plenty of us wanting to choose kindness in tech (some days I'd settle for lack of nastiness), and I guess it feels like more of an uphill struggle than a few years ago but I haven't given up. One pull quote: "Unfortunately, it turns out that chanting MINASWAN is not a substitute for having a code of conduct."
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@vocumsineratio@hachyderm.io 2025-11-10 21:25
@phillmv Holy crap, that was tremendous!
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@flberger@nerdculture.de 2025-11-10 22:10
@phillmv All in all this is the best thing I've read in a _long_ time. 🔥
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@phae@status.fberriman.com 2025-11-10 22:11
@phillmv this is really good! "The brain parasite is trying to get you to breathe in its spores." is probably going to be how I think about a lot of things, now. Couldn't tell whether to cry or smile by the end. You're a good person, Filipa.
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@feld@friedcheese.us 2025-11-10 22:19
@phillmv > I regret to inform you that, after a long struggle, he eventually lost his fight against the parasitic fungus that was taking over his brain, and died. The exact timeline is unclear, but we suspect he succumbed to his illness sometime in 2020. :golfclap: :tipshat: almost spit out my coffee, well done