"This is sexual assault. This TIF is a rapist.
Edit: way too many people are focused on "that's not ACTUALLY rape" rather than acknowledging this is still an act of sexual predation and homophobic violence.
Intentionally depriving someone of their ability to give informed consent for sex is wrong. " Lesbian Meanies With The Memeies
"My experiences with cis gay men
Discussion
Just need to get this off my chest... and I'd love to know
if I'm the only one experiencing this.
I'm a trans man who passes pretty well and I was once
given the advice to not tell dates and sex partners I'm
trans. All I can say is I wish I hadn't followed this advice
because it just led to disappointments and awkward
situations that really impacted my self-esteem.
To make a long story short, I hooked up (or at least
attempted to) with 6 gay guys in the last few months.
All from Grindr or Tinder. I never told any of them I was
trans beforehand. Firstly because that's the advice I
was given, and secondly because I thought in the event
that they are not into AFAB genitalia, there's plenty of
other things we can do sexually that don't involve my
private parts.
So... how did it go once in bed? Terrible. Every single
time.
Guy #1: Shocked. Got extremely rude and asked me
why I "lied to him".
Guy #2: Shocked but still remained fairly polite. He
asked me to put my clothes back on and leave though.
Guy #3: He was visibly confused when he realized I was
AFAB but he didn't stop me. 5 minutes later he stopped
the sex halfway and said something along the lines of
"I'm not into this sorry"
Guy #4: Got extremely mad. I thought he might even
get violent. Thankfully he didn't and I managed to leave
safely.
Guy #5: We had sex. It went okay. But he struggled
keeping a boner. He blocked me the next day.
Guy #6: When he felt my genitalia with his hands he
went "Oh... are you like...?" I responded that I'm a trans
guy. He went "Oh ok... I'm gay though, sorry".
So yeah... Every single times were freaking
embarrassing... I'm so done. And I feel like crap. "
#RapeByDecption #Homophobia #SexNotGender #TIFs #InternalizeMisogyny #LGBAlliance #cults #skeptic #GetTheLOut