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• Post #4457073

  Good morning. 🌘⭐ #SilentSunday #moon #AutisticJoy

• Post #4212347

  The full moon is so beautiful tonight. 🌕 #moon

• Post #4187422

  Such an incredible sky this evening. #Photography #urbanphotography #AutisticJoy

• Post #4139453

  As a feminist, who has been in many different kinds of relationships with cis, hetero men, after decades of analysing the patterns of them, I found a common theme and I know that I am not the only woman who came to that conclusion. In my experience this is true for all cis, hetero men, not matter if you are neurodivergent, progressive, even call yourself a feminist. You are all way too comfortable with women doing all the work for you, while not even being aware of it, while not even acknowledg...

• Post #4096440

  The light was almost magical during my morning walk. I took so many pictures and it was difficult to decide which one I should post, but I find the intense light green colour created by the morning sun shining through these tender leaves is exceptionally beautiful. #naturephotography #nature #AutisticJoy

• Post #4082159

  Many, probably most AuDHD people experience rejection, emotional abuse, trauma, have CPTSD. When it comes to neurodivergent relationships, there's this moment when we start to open up, when we want to be close to another person. That makes us vulnerable, past experiences, thoughts, feelings rise to the surface. And even if we did inner work, even if we are not completely aware of it, don't want it, we feel the need to protect ourselves, become defensive, lash out. Some time ago I watch...

• Post #3763574

  I think with my new personal assistant I will use another strategy than I did with the ones in the past. Instead of explaining that I have a different neurology and all that, because none of them has a neurodiversity affirming perspective on autism I will go for "Yeah, I am like an alien, a creature from another universe. Expect the unexpected. I am crazy in the right way and we will have a lot of fun together. Let's go." Something like that. #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #neurodive...

• Post #3735348

  Unlearning the wrong way, does not automatically teach us the right way and I guess that I am not the only autistic person who had to learn that about neurodivergent relationships. In other words, embracing your autistic self, unmasking the autism and acting like an excited toddler on coke are not the same thing. I mentioned it in other posts before, that we didn’t have an autistic kindergarten, that we did not learn healthy autistic behavior and socializing while growing up. It’s not our fau...

• Post #3724926

  The light was so beautiful this morning. #nature #AutisticJoy

• Post #3542735

  This is a bit polarising, but I do think that autistic people are black and white thinkers while at the same time we are able to find the nuances in between. I have the impression that many neurotypical people think in shades of grey, but stay away from the black and the white to be able function. This is goes into the same direction as the intense world theory and us having a spicy skill set. Some years ago I read a tweet that stated, that autistic people's memories are sharp pictures whi...

• Post #3333146

  Double (?) empathy problem: Autistic person asks for handling a situation in a specific way, that would accommodate their needs. Allistic person: "I would prefer do it differently." Autistic person explains in detail that they are asking for this accomodation, because it is necessary to make the situation accessible for them, not a nice to have preference. Allistic person: "You don't have to explain yourself." Autistic person: "Yeah, but I obviously have to. I w...

• Post #2559026

  During the early morning Lumi and I can take our walk through the graveyard in solitude. The light before sunrise made it look like a fairytale garden again today. #nature #AutisticJoy #ActuallyAutistic

• Post #2453591

  #SilentSunday #nature #AutisticJoy

• Post #2004423

  Why is it so difficult for autistic people to find friends and partners? I read some post about this during the last days and here are my thoughts on the topic. The short answer is that it not because there’s something wrong with us. It’s because we are a minority group, we are very different from each other and have limited options to find each other. These factors are strongly intertwined. Yes, we are not perfect, unresolved trauma, masking and internalized ableism play a role and we all h...

• Post #1898840

  For me and many other disabled people, purely existing, having hope and experiencing joy is the only form of protest we can take part in and that's totally valid. Happy MayDay ✊ #disabled #MayDay #ActuallyAutistic

• Post #1470885

  Like many other autistic and/or disabled people I will spend Christmas on my own and while I appreciate my alone time and the atmosphere and the silence of it, I know it can be difficult and hurtful. So I would like to connect with other people who spend Christmas on their own or experience feelings of loneliness during these days, by interacting with this post. That can be just leaving and receiving a virtual hug or telling each other about the gifts you received or gave yourself during the...

• Post #1435828

  Pro-tip: To avoid making a mess, you should keep your mouth closed, when you are highly motivated to do an intensive cleaning with mouthwash. 🤐

• Post #1342535

  In my opinion people with acquired neurodivergence deserve the same acceptance and accomodations like people who were born with a divergent neurology. For me that means that I will do my best to create a safe space for a person who experienced trauma in the same way as I do for a sound sensitive autistic person. It means that I try to handle the need for control of an ND person no matter if the cause for this need is a mental illness or AuDHD. That doesn't mean that I will endure disr...

• Post #1286940

  As an autistic woman, who experienced SA herself and as an intersectional feminist, I reject the trope that most men are monsters, that men are inherently bad and women inherently good. This approach is the opposite of helpful, it’s highly problematic for all genders and leads to the terf, fascist, religious extremism pipeline. It’s not the gender, that corrupts people, it’s power. For that reason, Feminism and Anarchism are strongly intertwined. Because we are not talking about physical powe...

• Post #1175143

  I lately got the impression that a lot of neurodivergent, especially AuDHD people struggle with their mental health during spring time. So while the neurotypicals talk about autism awareness, ask about your plans for the holidays and tell you to enjoy the beautiful, sunny day, I am not only very much reminded of the fact that other people have a life outside of their apartment, the local graveyard and Mastodon, there are also a lot of other aspects that make springtime difficult for me. The ch...

• Post #1164955

  The morning light shining through the fog turned the graveyard into a fairytale garden. 🌸

• Post #1135134

  As an AuDHD person, patience is not one of my strongest virtues, but I am capable of it, when I really want to gain the trust of a human or another animal. Beagle Lumi, a rescue, who spent the first year of his life in a laboratory for animal testing before I adopted him, has been a good teacher for me concerning that. These moments when he shows me that he feels safe with me still do something to my heart, I can't put into words. About two years ago I decided that I want a crow friend,...

• Post #1038938

  Good morning. 🌸 #SilentSunday #Bloomscrolling

• Post #945012

  Happy Easter and a little reminder that you don't have to eat something you don't want to, whether it's because you are vegan, neurodivergent or for whatever other reason. #ActuallyAutistic #neurodivergent

• Post #866167

  Frage an die deutschsprachige, neurodivergente, queere Community: Eine liebe Freundin von mir möchte sich gerne einen Mastodon Account zu legen und ich würde ihr gerne eine passende Instanz empfehlen. Sie ist selbst neurodivergent, trans, queer und Millenial. Sie ist sehr vulnerabel, sensibel und erkundet gerade ihr ADHS. Eine kleine, kuschelige, deutschsprachige Community wäre besser als eine große "nur die Harten komm in Garten" Instanz, wo man für ein falsches Wort geteer...

• Post #747098

  In my experience music can help "reprogramming" our bodyminds, getting rid of harmful thought patterns and even give us access to information hidden in the subconsciousness. Sometimes it's just a line in the lyrics, it doesn't have to be the meaning that the artist intended. It's about what your bodymind associates with it. So to all the autistic people, who need time to process things, who mask and fawn, especially autistic women, who sometimes find...

• Post #715022

  There's so much beauty in this world. 🌸 #Bloomscrolling

• Post #715017

  Good morning ☀️ #SilentSunday #Bloomscrolling

• Post #690014

  Thinking about switching from Windows to Linux yesterday created a cascade of thoughts in me I didn’t expect and I would liket to tell you a bit about it, about me. I am an AuDHD cis woman (she), somewhat fluid in gender (autigender) and personality, I constantly grow and adapt. I am a Xennial and worked as a concept developer and PM in tech during my 20s until my first huge burnout, that made me spend several months on an almost empty island in Thailand and in India and quit my job. During my...