Post #3103465
2026-06-04 17:39 UTC
Replies (18)
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@leguinian_utopia@union.place 2026-06-04 18:45
@Melezioh@mstdn.games Mel once again with the awesome takes🩵 Thanks dude
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@Jorsh@beige.party 2026-06-04 18:56
@Melezioh@mstdn.games Misandry is just another extreme, like misogyny. Its basis is negative. True feminism and masculism compliment one another.
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@normjess@tech.lgbt 2026-06-04 20:24
@Melezioh@mstdn.games yup, its patriarchy that teaches women are best at child raising, erasing the hard work of many awesome fathers NOT feminism
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@Liza@lgbtqia.space 2026-06-04 20:27
@Melezioh@mstdn.games I wish I could share it in bsky where I had today an argument about the very same topic after a non-binary person wrote that they dont get trans men that "joins the worse gender". I wanted to fucking scream
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@nazokiyoubinbou@urusai.social 2026-06-04 20:39
@Melezioh@mstdn.games I can definitely verify that toxic masculinity has been pretty much the bane of my life even as a cisgender male.
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@mattdm@hachyderm.io 2026-06-04 21:09
@Melezioh@mstdn.games It's really sad that this still has to be explained in 2026.
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@JoBlakely@mastodon.social 2026-06-04 21:21
@Melezioh@mstdn.games but men are by & large not doing the work at all. They aren’t deconstructing patriarchy. They aren’t challenging the systems. They aren’t compensating to right the wrongs. They don’t behave as allies or march with or for women. They profit from it without doing anything to compensate. If they cared about women’s suffering & theirs, they’d do something, but they profit from it. Until then, I think a good deal less of men. Whatever caring they have in theory, needs to be in praxis.
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@raeve@transfem.social 2026-06-04 21:28
@Melezioh@mstdn.games Try the term 'Male Supremacy'. Gives folks a known model for why it's harmful and what is to be done about it.
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@jcolag@mastodon.social 2026-06-04 22:01
@Melezioh@mstdn.games Other than the fact that too few people know the first word, I love "hegemonic masculinity" as a term, because it helps make that point. Men are "the problem" with patriarchy in the same way that the rest of the world is "the problem" with problems in the United States, probably complicit, but under duress due to power hierarchies.
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@RegGuy@mstdn.social 2026-06-04 22:26
@Melezioh@mstdn.games This is brilliantly and succinctly stated. Thank you.
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@enthusiast101@ieji.de 2026-06-04 23:01
@Melezioh@mstdn.games This I definitely feel as a man. People wonder I dislike driving cars, why I don't want to go out fishing, and plenty of other "manly" things. As an ace and potentially neurodivergent person, the stereotype of "men are lusty creatures that go after women" is also something that terrifies me. How much distance is correct? What are the non obvious harassment actions? I like to think I balance things good enough and I don't make people uncomfortable, but it is kinda a worry that I might accidentally do something wrong. Though I do feel like I did something right, since the friends I chose myself (gender irrelevant) don't really make me feel on guard on those things.
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@mobidic@mastodon.social 2026-06-05 00:02
@Melezioh@mstdn.games Gender doesn't matter. Some people are simply brain-dead by nature.
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@CordiallyChloe@tech.lgbt 2026-06-05 00:04
@Melezioh@mstdn.games men are also the only ones who can truly upend and fix the patriarchy. We need men on board to fix this.
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@renardboy@mastodon.social 2026-06-05 00:31
@Melezioh@mstdn.games Man that's twice I see you in my home feed with the based takes, I feel seen as fuck
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@danimo@mastodon.social 2026-06-05 00:48
@Melezioh@mstdn.games But refusing to reject a group—a significant portion of whom are oppressive assholes or silent accomplices—doesn’t help anyone either. Except the assholes. If one of the driving forces behind oppression is group dynamics, then that group must, of course, be rejected.
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@resister@infosec.exchange 2026-06-05 10:49
@Melezioh@mstdn.games reading again reading again reading again reading again ... Damn it... ______________ Yeah... as I understand it, feminism simply demands equality for women in society. It's an extremely simple concept that should be a no-brainer. It really is a shame that it gets taken as some kind of extremist manifesto.
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@jhooper@techhub.social 2026-06-05 12:13
@Melezioh@mstdn.games also worth stating that Toxic Masculinity isn't saying that masculinity is toxic, it's saying that there are toxic concepts and behaviors that are associated with masculinity.
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@cyberwitch@goingdark.social 2026-06-05 13:08
@Melezioh@mstdn.games ironically, patriarchy is pretty misandrist too. It not only describes, but insists boys and men be aggressive, emotionally stunted, cruel, and shallow slaves to their dicks. And it's frustrating to see the response to the "male loneliness crisis" doubling down on those values and insisting women find these traits attractive (which some sadly do), instead of realizing that this power-driven toxic masculinity is the common enemy.