cis genderule
2026-05-15 15:14 UTC
Replies (21)
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@lotharmatthaeus@lemmy.zip 2026-05-15 18:26
Am I trans just because I sometimes would like to know how it would be to have a vulva? Or because I sometimes jerk off to women with dicks? Am I gay because I sometimes fantasise about someone cuming inside my butt?
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@infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 2026-05-15 15:33
No, in a world where gender expression is straightjacketed and violence meets non-conformity it’s very normal for even the normative to be unsure of where they stand, and we should count it as a blessing that any straight person feels the need to stop to give it thought. Please don’t go pressuring people into accepting your assumptions about their orientation, your experiences and feelings are not theirs.
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@texture@lemmy.world 2026-05-15 19:04
thinking is good though, back to the shadow realm with you
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@sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2026-05-15 19:31
You’d think a hyper-individualistic society would involve people actually hyper-reflecting on and hyper-developing their own inner nature, but apparently no, its mostly outward signalling, little to no inner substance. Am I reading this wrong or is the concept of being honest with yourself here literally represented as death? Maybe its more accurate to just say we have a hyper-extroverted society, than a hyper-individualistic one. Life lesson I learned from an actress playing a computer program playing a kindly old lady, in some movie, from around 20 years ago now: Temet Nosce. Know Thyself.
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@N0tTr0xy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2026-05-16 00:33
Cis is pretty clearly defined, the words that follow are not necessarily clearly defined
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@webghost0101@sopuli.xyz 2026-05-15 16:26
Sometimes it feels like i lucked out to be fluid, defaulting to non binary whenever gender becomes functionally non relevant (which is almost always) It means i simply pass as gender normative, i also desired biological offspring which for me requires a long term cis relationship. In most situations i feel like An opposite of the in the corner meme “they don’t know i don’t have a gender right now” but i feel real good about being some cool undercover enlightened gender weirdo, as opposed to a very obvious autistic nerd kind of weirdo. And actual gender naive cis people better watch out cause i will argue in defence of my queer siblings whenever the topic requires it.
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@IAMgROOT@lemmy.wtf 2026-05-16 06:02
Im not apart of the Confederacy of Independant Systems. Glory to the REPUBLIC! FOR THE 501ST!
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@Ophrys@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2026-05-16 11:09
Stop!
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@MutilationWave@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2026-05-16 11:54
The majority of people who are cis don’t know what cis means.
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@grrgyle@slrpnk.net 2026-05-16 12:18
I know some people really identify with their gender, but to me I think the biggest sign I’m male is that I don’t really think about my gender and deep down feel it’s silly to fixate on such a social construct. Anyway I’ve learned a lot since then, and get why gender is important to people especially if they’re at odds with the one assigned. But for a while there I just assumed everyone must secretly want to abolish gender.
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@SethTaylor@lemmy.world 2026-05-16 12:38
I reject the social construct of gender in the same way I reject religion. What even am I? 😐
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@angstylittlecatboy@reddthat.com 2026-05-16 13:37
I don’t agree. I have the feeling that “agender” is a label that could apply to me. I don’t have this deep attachment to the notion I’m a “man” or “woman” that others do. At most I’m unsure if I’d be okay with someone consistently referring to me as “she;” as a femboy it’s a compliment when strangers do it off handedly, but nobody’s ever done it consistently. But I could never call myself trans. That’s stolen valor to me. I’ll never go through the financial woes and social persecution that trans people go through, because I don’t feel the true need to do anything defined as “transitioning.” That’s why “agender” reasonates stronger than “genderfluid” though I wouldn’t call it unreasonable if someone else considered me as such. Maybe I’m using a more inclusive definition of “cis” than you. Maybe some would argue you can be not cis without being trans. But that’s “depends how you define cis” now isn’t it? All I’m saying is that I don’t think it’s helpful or accurate to basically consider everyone who ever questioned their gender to be trans, it’s called questioning for a reason, and in many ways I’d argue the world would be better if cis people questioned their gender more.
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@Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2026-05-16 15:08
Wait really? People who are cis don’t think about it… at all? Maybe I’m more enby than I thought I was 🤔
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@BarneyPiccolo@lemmy.cafe 2026-05-16 15:48
I just say I’m a “standard-issue white guy,” and people know what that means.
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@TankovayaDiviziya@lemmy.world 2026-05-16 15:48
I guess.
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@Ratio_Tile@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2026-05-15 16:20
I did a lot of exploration of my own identity and self discovery as a kid, and was very disappointed to find that I am cishet and average in every way conceivable. What a waste of my wonderful, accepting parents! I should at least have turned out as trans as a courtesy.
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@Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org 2026-05-15 17:30
But how does one actually even know? It’s not like someone shakes your hand and congratulates you, no flashing party lights, no balloons falling from the sky, when you ponder enough and suddenly figure it out. There aren’t any clear signs, just guessing. So it’s not that unfeasible that person can keep pondering over it and never get closer to the answer.
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@Skullgrid@lemmy.world 2026-05-15 16:20
You have gender dysmorphia because you feel like you belong to a gender difference to the one you were assigned at birth, I have gender dysmorphia because I want my body to conform even more to the one I was assigned at birth. We are not the same, but I feel your pain.
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@Pat_Riot@lemmy.today 2026-05-15 18:00
Look, floating skull head face, you're the one who asked the unclear question.
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@lath@piefed.social 2026-05-15 15:36
When most people are cis, they don't think about cis and its definition at all. So when one raises the question about it, it's ok to take the time and try to ponder "what the fuck does that even mean?". The last panel puts pressure and casts doubt where there isn't a need. Has "it's just a prank, bro" vibes.
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@FreddiesLantern@leminal.space 2026-05-16 13:01
“Ah hell naw…” (starts info dumping the bicicle).