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That doesn’t make any sense. if what I described happens anywhere, why even change jobs? Why is this such a big deal to you. So what if your co-workers enjoy their work. That has nothing to do with you. because I feel this is a trap where I’m supposed to say that I love my job more than anything, because I think this is how managers search for the ones who only want a paycheck and to leave work stuff at the workplace, because I work to live, not live to work, because I only want to do my hours and enjoy my life away from my coworkers, because managers actively search for the ones who drink the kool-aid and believe they will get a promotion if they just try harder, because the ones who ‘enjoy’ their jobs are the ones happy to work for the manager for free, because the ones who ‘like’ their jobs are the ones less likely to establish boundaries (and enjoy being exploited). Trying harder just means you get a pat on your back and a bigger shovel, not a raise.

We do exactly the same job. To me the idea of enjoying a job is an odd one: I don’t want to work, I only work because I need the money. If I had money I wouldn’t work. I don’t know if this makes me the oddest person on earth, but where I am my coworkers sometimes make me feel so. She asked me if I enjoy my job. I looked at her surprised while thinking to answer her with a regular blanket manager answer like ‘it is such a honor to work here, fuck yeah, I’d love to work here for free!’ or being completely sincere. I was in a good mood, so I chose being sincere: ‘I don’t enjoy working, I work because I need to pay for the rest of my life, I enjoy cooking, writing poetry and walking through a forest.’ She looked at me a bit surprised and replied: ‘but you have to like your job.’ My answer? ‘As long as I earn money all’s good.’ This happened in a big room with like 9 coworkers hearing the convo. Now I don’t know if I just committed job suicide where I work at, but it was liberating saying out loud at the workplace what I think a job is. And why the fixation that you must like a job? It’s a job for fucks sake. Why do you have to like it? To me this only confirms my current job is a cult. Am I exaggerating? If every workplace is like this I should stick with the devil I know…

you be the judge: the extra, unpaid hours most people willingly do setting the expectation you do that too, some people coming in 30 minutes before the shift starts and proud of it (what for? Are you going to be paid more?), obsession with presenting a good image to both coworkers and clients, the fake interest in getting to know you, conversations that feel scripted, forcing you to share about you, controlling the way you speak, yelling at the foreign coworkers when they don’t speak English among themselves, taking your breaks together with the whole group, ostracizing you if you want to take your break alone, getting snippy if you state boundaries (“I don’t talk about that with coworkers”), some people ranting openly and loudly in a room full of people about a coworker they don’t like for whatever perceived sling, your manager expecting you to enjoy her stories (no, I don’t really care about you, Andrea), then expecting you to be the one doing the most demanding tasks nobody wants to do. I even have coworkers complaining I waste too much paper and that’s bad for the company. Who gives a flying fuck about that Karen? I really don’t understand why some people are like this. Holy shit, I was so naive. I don’t know if every workplace is like this, but I just didn’t question it and went along with it because 2 years ago the workplace seemed good enough and pays better than everyone around afaik. I don’t know if I should look elsewhere. If I start applying elsewhere, do I even mention this? Because I don’t want this to happen to me again. There is a chance this also happens elsewhere. Do I stick with the devil I know?

I don’t understand his strategy, he answers the prosecutor’ questions extremely vaguely. I don’t know if I could act like that if called as a witness. Is this something I should imitate when dealing with HR? I don’t understand why how he answers is not lying.

On an email with my manager I described a coworker I only worked with once as a small, thin woman that was either born in an East Asian country or has East Asian parents. I don’t know this person’s name. I don’t see a better way to describe her all things considered. The managers answer: it is disrespectful to describe people according to ethnic background or physical appearance. My next question for this manager: dear manager, how should I describe this person then? I don’t know if I’m being genuinely disrespectful or this is a very thin skinned manager. Either way, I had to work with another coworker I didn’t know either. This conversation with manager B ensued: manager B: ‘today you’re working with mike’ me: ‘who’s mike?’ manager B: ‘that fat guy’ make it make sense.

long term I mean 10, 20, 30 years. Some people say yes, because my horizon are these years, long after trump is gone, but I wonder if I should wait till after the midterms or after the presidential election.

I was thinking phrasing the question explicitly for nurses, doctors, emergency services and the like but anyone could offer solid advice. I’ve realized I don’t know how to react if people start crying on me for something as innocuous as asking how they’re doing or how their operation went. Others are terrified of their operation and start shaking like a leaf. The most I can offer are platitudes, a therapist, a priest, volunteers that come to talk to those who feel lonely, something to calm down if the anesthesiologist agrees and hold their hand but I simply don’t know what to tell them to calm them down. How do you do it?

I’m a RN (registered nurse), my hospital offered me to to become a Wound Care Nurse. They would cover 80% of the cost, so I’d end paying 20% of it. Why scared you ask? I’ve worked at several units at my hospital and I invariably met a majority of childish coworkers and a minority of the good ones, a minority from whom I’d always learn something, but most were and are just immature. Immature behaviors include caring more about going smoking together and talking like teenagers about who dated who or whose ex is coming momentarily to work at the unit, yelling like they were in a bar, promising the manager when I first come to the unit to show me around and to actually teach me something during my training to do a complete 180 when the manager leaves, ignoring me, being passive aggressive, talking about nothing job related, while ignoring calling patients, or being outright hostile when I ask who is going to take care of what patients so I can organize my shift and start to work. Usually, if you work in a unit with those characters and you are the responsible one, you end up doing your job AND theirs, but I don’t see a dime more. Complaining to management didn’t change anything. They usually side with the majority, because it’s easier for them. What I fear is having to work with any of these characters during my certification because I don’t trust them and I don’t want to be treated unfairly (getting a lower score) just because the person who examines me has beef with me. For this to work I need people, teachers and mentors who take it as seriously as I do. I’ve already quit several units because this wasn’t the case.

unrelenting, continuous, loud, right to your face verbal abuse, insinuating you overdosed the patient, pointing his fingers right to your face, claiming he is going to sue me and the hospital. I froze, because this is the first time something like this happens to me, my ears hurt. I don’t know how long I stayed there, completely still because I didn’t know what else to do. At some point I stopped listening to him and simply walked away to a restroom. Miraculously, he didn’t follow me. I was ready to punch him if he touched me. Out of the workplace, if somebody acts like that I either walk away or answer back or defend myself physically, should it escalate. Enduring that level of verbal abuse is something nobody enjoys, nor is something I am willing to tolerate. The rest of my shift wasn’t funny. Incident was reported.

a caregiver can be a RN that performs a job in a hospital, might be in a union, gets paid and has pauses, but also a person that does it for somebody in the family who needs caregiving, like an aging parent or a wife with MS. I’ve heard so many stories of mostly women, complaining but mostly venting that they have a regular job AND then have to go home and must take care of an ungrateful elder, are not being paid, how taxing it is, while other siblings do nothing but offer platitudes, do not to help and have normal lives. I can understand why people act so passively because taking care of an aging parent or a wife with MS is hard, not valued, back breaking non stop job, physically and mentally, unpaid and unrecognized by society but at the same time, expected. It’s even worse because adults without this kind of responsibility love to judge and call you ungrateful for not sacrificing your life for your ailing parents (they gave you life!!, that’s not christian!!). Most you’ll hear from people somehow aware of this situation is that you’re a hero or an angel, which is so insulting and out of touch. I wouldn’t sacrifice my life for my parents, move in with them to be their maid 24/7 like these women. But what if it was just another job, I was paid, had my pauses and I could call in sick and clock out? It looks better. Where you live, is this possible? How much in wages did you lose? Any regrets?

This happens in a hospital’s ICU. The patient’s daughter, a woman from the middle east in her thirties and very limited English, after seeing her father in a bed, intubated, with several syringe pumps, a pacer, several monitoring sensors and more stuff, started yelling a long, continued aaaaaahhh…, took her phone, called somebody, started yelling at the phone in her mother tongue, left the room, left the ICU but immediately after started banging the door to be let in again, she yelled to the phone again, the woman at the end of the line started yelling as well, so that’s 2 women yelling, equally stressed. 2 family members who happened to be there started banging the door as well, a nurse approached the door, let them in, telling them in a stern voice and not looking friendly not to yell, which, to my surprise, worked a bit: the daughter kept yelling, but not so loud as before, the other 2 women didn’t yell, they all followed the nurse into the room. I froze. This has never happened to me. I thought about hugging the daughter but being a man and not speaking an ounce of Arabic I didn’t know if she would think I was trying to assault her. I don’t know how people from the middle east, presumably Muslims, react to this. If you ever experienced something like this, what did you do? ETA: I wrote yelling and not wailing, because to me it wasn’t wailing: Wailing is recognized automatically, it makes you cry, this wasn’t like that, wailing cannot be faked. I was born in a household where appearances were highly valued. One family tradition where I was born is to fake cry during funerals: you’re supposed to show how sad you are by faking to sob and cry, but to anyone smart enough it’s clear that’s fake. My grandfather never loved my grandmother and when she died after 50 years of unhappy marriage, he did exactly that during the funeral. What this woman did felt like that.

it’s footage made by the Americans to be shown to the court and possibly to the German public to advance denazification. It begins with a map of occupied Europe and the names and locations of the main concentration camps. I’ve seen some excerpts of that documentary on several history documentaries, but never the whole film. In the film shown to the court we see some prisoners praying, thanking their saviors, emaciated dead prisoners, excavators burying decaying bodies by the hundreds, former prisoners describing Nazi torture techniques, a crematorium is shown… Do you know the name of the footage and where to find it?