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My neighbor’s son passed away in April last year and what would have been his son’s 23rd birthday is coming up at the end of the month, so I know the next few weeks are going to be really hard on him. We’re friends, but not super close. I’d like to do something for him, but can’t think of much beyond bringing over food and/or flowers. Any suggestions?

Genuinely have a feeling Lots of Kids missed out but I want other peoples opinions

I was at a party where this very handsome guy kept making moves and initiating. It felt so nice to be chosen out of many people, and the chats were good rather than superficial small talk. After a while he asked “my place or yours?” No matter how much my mind was aware that I am not the type of person who can carelessly hook up and I get attached, my heart couldn’t say no in the moment. So we went to his and hooked up. We were also drunk which didn’t help. Full disclosure, he couldn’t get completely hard, and I wonder if it has to do with me but he said it’s probably because he’s drunk. We mutually did other intimate things too, and cuddled afterwards which got me - he was giving compliments and being sweet. Then it got weird. I couldn’t sleep and woke him up once after which he turned over and at one point said “get out”. He was in and out of sleep with eyes closed, but it was very clearly said. He also claims that he doesn’t remember anything after he hit the bed. So does that mean it’s possible he was dreaming/sleeptalking and it wasn’t directed at me? I accidentally left something small at his place and he added me on social media later on saying he found it. We sent a few flirty messages back and forth across a few days, and he recently asked about my weekend plans but is now ghosting me for the second time. I just feel old and stupid. I naively thought there could be something this time but they are all the same. I hate that I fell for it and couldn’t control myself. What should I do or say now? We’re in a professional organization (although not a workplace) where word travels fast, my friends all saw us and were so curious, and I really care what our peers think of me. I asked when he was drunk to keep this between us so I’m afraid it didn’t register deeply enough. Should I have a real talk with him, and if so, over food or just a talk in person or over the phone? I feel so lost. Please help me out, friends. Thank you!

There’re a number definitions of racism that preclude non-whites from the ability to be racist. Some allow for them to be considered prejudiced. Some are expressed as formulas (priviledge+power or prejutice+power) with the key concept being power. I (relatively uninformedly) refer to these as structural definitions. The question is as the title suggests, and if you’re so inclined, please explain what you think should be made of a resolution in either direction. Is it fine if it is? Should be? Should it not? That sort of thing (and why if you’ve the time). Would honestly prefer supporters of these definitions to respond though all are welcome; i’d be less likely to engage with your response if it reads like a shitpost in either case.

Not sure if it’s just me, but I’ve been running into this quite a bit. My client conversations are spread across different messaging platforms, and sometimes important or more detailed discussions just get buried or overlooked. It’s not even about the number of messages, it’s the fragmentation that makes it hard to keep track of everything in one flow. Anyone else dealing with this? How are you keeping track of conversations without things slipping through?

i had an idea, what if there was a website that showed companies that are know to be corrupt or engaged in unethical pratices. this could be a hub to easily show people companies they should not support and why.

Are there any invidious clients for android TV that do not have crappy navigation or outright abandoned? I’ve tried clipious and Materialious which both have their own problems. I am using a shield TV for hardware.

When I say normie I mean someone who doesn’t care about self-hosting doesn’t really care that much about privacy and you wouldn’t consider deep tech hobbyist. If you did , how did you do it ? Did they stay ? Or if someone did convert you , how did they do it ?

One of mine is potato salad. I always add a good splodge of french dressing Anyone got a secret ingredient for vegetable soup? …mines always a tad bland. good chance to add requests.

I start: I’m mostly left-libertarian I used to be a “normal” libertarian (aka right-libertarian) but I started to realize corporations are probably just as bad as the government, if not a mirror image.

What happens if the sun shines onto your solar panels, and you have too much power. I guess you could cover the panels with a blanket in such a case, but that would be manual intervention … Do you need to consume all electric power you generate? Ways of wasting power include … heating water or electrostatics. Most people would put surplus power they produce into the grid, but this is connected to government / cooperate regulations and paperwork, some would like to avoid that. An island solution with solar panels is not connected to the power grid at all…

Yes, this instance is definitely the wrong place to ask, but maybe I’ll be surprised. I hate commercial ads. I consider them intolerable and violating. I’m far from alone in this perspective (see: famous Banksy quote, and subvertising + related cultures). It’s one of the rawest forms of exploitative manipulation. So surely you can understand my confusion whenever I see people just watching ads on their phone until they finish, or even watching ads on television until their show starts again. Come on, just do something else for 4 minutes (most channels run two 4 minute segments per half hour, that why your downloaded TV episodes are 22 minutes each instead of 30) Is there a more meaningful answer than “laziness”?

I made a post yesterday and it racked up a load of upvotes. I happened to go into the community today with a filter for top past 12 hours on, and though my post had more upvotes than the others, it didn’t show there at all. What’s that all about? It’s like I’ve blocked myself or something. Edit: I checked another post in another community with not as many upvotes and it doesn’t show in the top past 12 hours filter either, when it should be top.

For example, in college I got a bad grade on a history exam. The biggest part of why I got a bad grade was mixing up two similar sounding words in an essay question, which I vaguely remembered the professor might have made a big deal about not making that particular mistake in a class one time, but I couldn’t remember the answer to the question if the question was using the word I thought it was, so I chose to write the answer as if the essay question had used the other word (I think it might have been about the British vs French versions of Parliament, something like that). This essay question was one of a set that you were free to choose from, as long as you answered a specified number of questions. Because I was pretty sure my answer to the first question was wrong, later in the exam I came back to this essay section and managed to answer enough other questions that I was one over the number that had actually been requested. I figured if it happened to be right it could only help my grade, so I left it there rather than crossing it out, and left a brief explanation as a footnote, requesting that that answer be discarded if only the specified smaller number of answers could be factored into the score. As it turned out, that answer was marked wrong, and I got a pretty bad grade overall on the exam. The marked exam had no visible points accounting, so I didn’t know how the grade was being calculated. I thought it seemed unfair that my footnote hadn’t been considered, so I went to office hours to ask for a better grade on that basis. I got one, and I was surprised by how much, a full letter grade higher, just for that one question being discounted. This was actually upsetting to me though, I wanted to complain, because that essay section was just one part of a larger exam, and it seemed like that meant that making this one particular word mixup mistake the professor had a pet peeve about gets people marked down a full letter grade, and so you are penalized heavily from following the exam advice everyone gets drilled into them to always prefer putting an uncertain answer to not answering. Also the idea that he was probably just eyeballing the grades and there was no per question points accounting. It just seemed very unfair. But I kept my complaints to myself, since I had already gotten the best outcome I could hope for from that meeting and didn’t want him to change his mind. I wonder if it was worth it though, since these events are now part of a rotation of things I sometimes spontaneously think about and feel a little indignation and imagine things I could have said instead, even though it was years ago and is irrelevant to my life now, and even though I think past me was likely taking grades too seriously. Is that weird? I’d like to hear about it if other people also have little pointless grudges that they can’t let go.

Nothing against Germans, I’m just wondering why, outside of the English internet, it got such high adoption in Germany compared to eg. France or Spain. I see next to no French/Spanish/etc. content on here in comparison

When I was about 8 years old (2016) I woke up early while my parents were still asleep and turned on the TV to see what to watch. Superjail was on and I cried due to so much gore being on the TV, even if it was cartoon gore. I was 8.

I’ll start: I use iOS primarily since iPhones don’t have custom ROMs

I will avoid saying why I’m planning on doing it now only because it will color people’s interpretation of why I’m doing it. Hopefully my Iran flag will come in time, but it will the a 3’ by 5’ flag and it will tough be 10’ in the air and I will be with other protestors. I have waves the Palestine flag in multiple previous protests and I get the sense that people don’t recognize it like the LGBT flag

Howdy folks, I’m in search of a game cam type set up for monitoring chicken laying habits. Basically a motion activated camera that takes pictures or video when a chicken goes into a nesting box. I’ve done some research, but it’s kind of a SEO shitshow on Google, with 10,000 different options. I want something real simple that just takes an SD card, no wireless network crap. Ideally not crazy expensive. Thanks in advance.

Definition: “gay music video night” is a friendgroup activity wherein you and your friends rotate in choosing music videos to show one another. This often emerges organically as opposed to being planned, and as a subset of a larger hangout, e.g. as a pregame activity or winding down. The reason that it’s called “gay music video night” is that this activity/ritual is often partaken by queer male friendgroups, and for the veneration of their favourite female pop idols (though no music video is excluded here; please share whatever you wish!) Ok now that everyone has been briefed: Chrissy Chlapecka truly continues to gag me. Like her cunt level is just so powerful. She started off with Brat, which was admittedly a studio space and a dream, and still ate down And now she’s putting out incredible videos like Andromeda (which had an insane production turnaround time???) We need to be including her in the conversation. Her strap stays down my throat and her pleaser on my neck, and I thank her. Chrissanie Chlapenotta You Will Always Be Famous 😍😍😍

Newcomb’s problem is a thought experiment where you’re presented with two boxes, and the option to take one or both. One box is transparent and always contains $1000. The second is a mystery box. Before making the choice, a supercomputer (or team of psychologists, etc) predicted whether you would take one box or both. If it predicted you would take both, the mystery box is empty. If it predicted you’d take just the mystery box, then it contains $1,000,000. The predictor rarely makes mistakes. This problem tends to split people 50-50 with each side thinking the answer is obvious. An argument for two-boxing is that, once the prediction has been made, your choice no longer influences the outcome. The mystery box already has whatever it has, so there’s no reason to leave the $1000 sitting there. An argument for one-boxing is that, statistically, one-boxers tend to walk away with more money than two-boxers. It’s unlikely that the computer guessed wrong, so rather than hoping that you can be the rare case where it did, you should assume that whatever you choose is what it predicted.

In theory of course. And please refrain from telling me why a global revolution would not work.

Hello, yes, I use Instagram even though I don’t like it because well all of my friends does and I can’t convince them to use something else. it’s really sad how hard it is to convince people to join open networks specially in fascist country like India where people are just boot lickers of politicians and rich people. but I digress. I found the other day that google analytics can be easily tricked since it doesn’t verify the input. you can just open network tab and watch for any request going to www.google-analytics.com and just copy that request as curl command now you can tweak the parameters of the query and it will just accept it. ig, you can say I have 1920x1080 monitor and google will just accept it. it’s an effective way to fill up google analytics with garbage data to the point that it’s harder to separate real data from the garbage data. now I want to know if there is something similar to poison data of Instagram/Facebook/Meta. I opened network tab on instagram.com but couldn’t find anything interesting. any help would be appreciated! :)

Hi everyone. I’m looking for a device to install Home Assistant on to manage a smart thermostat, a programmable light bulb (on and off), and another lamp in my house. Since I’ll be doing other work in the future, I want to use Home Assistant to be ready for the future. That said, I’m looking for a device (a Mini PC, a Pi, etc.) that consumes very little power, as I’ll be using it exclusively for this purpose. Do you have any suggestions? Thank you in advance!

I need new low beam bulbs for my 2007 Toyota Tundra SR5 Double Cab 4.7L. Low beam is H11. No fog lights. I drive rural Maine roads so it is truly dark, but I am in town too. Oncoming headlights are brutal for my vision, so I care about clean beam pattern and glare control, not just something that looks bright. My headlight lenses are hazed and yellow. I am leaning toward a restore kit, but I keep seeing advice to replace the whole headlight assemblies. I want to avoid cheap aftermarket housings that scatter light, leak, or haze again rapidly. For anyone who has dealt with this, what H11 low beam bulb recommendations do you have that work well in the stock housings? Halogen options welcome. LED options only if they keep a clean pattern and do not throw glare everywhere. And, should I restore, or do the full housing replacement? If you replaced, which brand was actually decent and held up through winter? Beam pattern pics against a garage door or real road shots would be awesome!

I’ve heard this before, but haven’t found it the case personally. I started work in manual jobs and messing around with computers was my evening hobby. Many years later, I now do IT as a job (partly from gaining skills from that hobby) but also have continued it as my primary thing to do when I’m not working. I was worried when I changed into this career that my hobby would become too much like work to be enjoyable, but I’ve not found that. Is this the same for other people, or am I unusual in doing something in my off hours that’s so close to my career? I’m genuinely curious to know if others have found the same or whether they found another hobby.

In Michigan, we have a 10¢ deposit on cans and bottles. They’re refunded by feeding empties into a machine that counts them up. But there are never enough machines, so a line forms. And right now I’m watching 7 dopes inspect each container individually before feeding it into the machine.

Water usage is probably my biggest. Living in a high desert, my wife and MIL see no problem with filling one side of the sink with hot soapy water to wash a few dishes because “that’s just how I’ve always done it”, to watering the grass and plants for hours. All of this makes me mental.

I’m kind of sick of being a dev. I hate AI with a passion. I hate the hallucinations, I hate slop, I hate megacrops, I hate the environmental impacts, I hate the massive costs. I could go on but you get the picture. At work I often times have to review vibe code slop from people who clock in 9 to 5 and don’t give a fuck (I respect that, I just wish your fucking code wasn’t slop) I’m sick of it, I’m sick of hearing about AI tooling or new models or bro agentic actions bro based on your documentation bro. I want to switch careers, so which career is not ruined by AI?

So I was wondering, is it possible to hypnotize a person who has Aphantasia. Now, before you get into a debate that a human cannot just make another human to run on commands. I’m no talking about this kind of hypnotism. Where an expert in this field guide his/her patient/client to close their eyes and imagine a bunch of scenarios to calm their mind, I’m talking about this kind. What will happen if a client turned out to have aphantasia? Will the expert be successful in his/her method?

My wife says if we invite our friends and their 3 year olds to my childs birthday that its customary to pay for everyone. Is this reasonable?

What is the best way to react, if someone calls you a degenerate? Just leave them, remembering the insult? This type of insult targets disabled people specifically?

Haiii, I am thinking about aquiring a domain Name. What’s the best privacy Friendly Registry, with fairly cheap pricing. Thx :3

cross-posted from: lemmy.world/post/44201302 Governments will change, people on the top might change. The question is whether they will face any consequences for their actions. Will the US as a whole face any consequence of its actions. Like the consequences other countries face when they do the stuff America is doing right now. Or will it be back to normal as soon as the regime changes. Will there be any lasting effects in how the world deals with US?

cross-posted from: hexbear.net/post/7930619 I’m getting back into MtG - Really I never left, but all my friends who played have moved + I lost all my good decks in a move myself. Now some of my other friends have started playing, and though I hate universes beyond, I enjoy the game. I don’t want to spend a bajillion on cards however, but I also don’t want to play with paper cutouts or proxies. It’s silly, but I like the cardboard for some reason. And I’d really like to regain some of my old decks, which were from Return to Ravnica/Original Innistraad era. So I’m looking for a good printshop that prints good-looking Magic cards. I hear some shops in China have gotten better than WOTC at printing. I’m in the EU. Anyway, I’d love to get some recommendations. Please help me out.

-Hi, I’ve been looking for help with my mod for a long time. I’ve searched in Facebook groups, Discord, and Twitter, but no one has helped me. I’m not offering money; the only thing I can offer is commissioned artwork in exchange. I never wanted to ask here, but I don’t know where else to look, and I really want to finish this personal project that’s been stuck in limbo for over a year. If you’re interested, it’s about the game Onmyoji adapted to FnF.

I’ve noticed a pattern where once a subreddit or Lemmy community reaches a certain size, the front page becomes mostly memes, recycled jokes, and lowest common denominator content. Genuine discussion gets pushed out unless the community is extremely strictly moderated for it. What do you think causes this shift? Is it inevitable with the upvote/downvote system rewarding quick, agreeable content over nuanced takes? Or are there platforms or moderation approaches that successfully scale discussion without turning into an echo chamber?

i think it is in black and white and 2 female singers as rivals something like “Anything You Can Do (I Can Do Better)”. I think i saw it on youtube Annie Get Your Gun- Anything you can do I can do better www.youtube.com/watch?v=WO23WBji_Z0

I take a 2 hour commute to school every day. My Stanley thermos, which was gifted to me by my very consumerist aunt, doesn’t keep my moka pot coffee hot for 2 hours. Although it is a pretty good thermos it seems to be leaking a lot of heat from the metal section near the cap. Is there any thermos that has every section of it isolated? Like, I shouldn’t even be able to tell if there is a hot liquid inside

The used market is more interesting so I haunt estate auctions. I would like to make a paper holder for a specific space so I’m casually looking for a handful of marbles to sandwich between some pieces of hardwood to make it so. Wow. An item I would expect to bid out at $2.50 or $5 goes past $50. Why? They’re just marbles. I’m old. I had a collection as a kid, but I’m not feeling any nostalgia for little glass balls. Collecting things, knick-knacks and such, are down in price all around. People don’t have space, disposable income, or time for the Boomer hoarding nonsense, they just want the houses the stuff was stored in. And yet. Marbles are somehow an acceptable hoard and take up space item now. In fact, there seems to be a moral imperative to make it so. Why?

Not for watching, for posting content (so Nebula is out with their super secret handshake entry standard). I don’t want to play to a bullshit Algorithm or make horrible thumbnails.