2025-06-11 22:58 UTC
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@morganth@social.tchncs.de 2025-06-11 23:00
@lykso@tiny.tilde.website I can only speak for myself but I genuinely do, unless it’s someone who I know I can’t trust. And without deanonymizing myself I think that most people in that particular room do too. (It’s a very supportive community that I belong to.)
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@ciggysmokebringer@kolektiva.social 2025-06-11 23:32
@lykso@tiny.tilde.website @morganth@social.tchncs.de I would qualify this - most people don't like being asked for help they seemingly can't provide, like there is a resentment around 'how dare you ask me for something I can't provide, you're humiliating me'. It's a weird faux pas for sure, but it comes from the place you're thinking of - people want to be a help if they can be (and think of themselves as such) and don't like feeling unhelpful if pressed.
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@mwt@mastodon.nz 2025-06-11 23:52
@lykso@tiny.tilde.website @morganth@social.tchncs.de in my experience, the help people want to provide rarely matches up with the help I need.
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@rileywd@mastodon.social 2025-06-12 18:06
@lykso@tiny.tilde.website @morganth@social.tchncs.de personally it depends whether I feel like the asker values my time and effort. If I can teach/empower them, if they've put in the effort, if they ask good questions or have a good problem description, or if they're in need and appreciative, excellent. If it feels like they're asking me to do their homework or housework for them, or they get me started then fire up candy crush, maybe I've got better things to do.