@lykso@tiny.tilde.website @morganth@social.tchncs.de I would qualify this - most people don't like being asked for help they seemingly can't provide, like there is a resentment around 'how dare you ask me for something I can't provide, you're humiliating me'. It's a weird faux pas for sure, but it comes from the place you're thinking of - people want to be a help if they can be (and think of themselves as such) and don't like feeling unhelpful if pressed.