Post #719382

2026-03-22 05:12 UTC

As someone neurodivergent the hardest lesson I&#39;ve had to learn in my adult life is: virtually no one wants to be called on their shit. If someone wrongs you and you confront them with this then you are the problem. It makes people really angry to be confronted by their bad behavior so naturally, you are the problem, not their bad behavior. If you simply kept your pie hole shut then everything would be fine. It&#39;s a hard lesson for a neurodivergent to understand, let alone learn.#neurodivergent

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@fishidwardrobe@mastodon.me.uk 2026-03-22 11:07

@LilPecan@mastodon.social also: even if they regret their actions, no-one (or almost no-one) wants to apologise. they might try to make up for it, but actually saying sorry? no.

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@Susan60@aus.social 2026-03-22 20:51

@LilPecan@mastodon.social It’s about boundaries. I found this an awfully difficult lesson. Pointing out to someone any more than how they have impacted me or another person in my care is an overstepping of the boundary, unless they too are in my care (my own child, a student) & even then, its tricky. Working out what they did & what they need to do about it, including how they might need to change their behaviour in future, is their responsibility. Working it out for themselves will (hopefully, eventually) give them the confidence they need to deal with other issues. Having the situation & solution handed to them is disempowering & can be humiliating. They are more likely to feel judged, shamed, & are more likely to be defensive, resentful & resistant as a result. Not stepping in when it all seems obvious can be frustrating. (Which might be an ADHD thing, impatience.) But that frustration really is our problem.

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