Post #2363447

@LilPecan@mastodon.social It’s about boundaries. I found this an awfully difficult lesson. Pointing out to someone any more than how they have impacted me or another person in my care is an overstepping of the boundary, unless they too are in my care (my own child, a student) & even then, its tricky. Working out what they did & what they need to do about it, including how they might need to change their behaviour in future, is their responsibility. Working it out for themselves will (hopefully, eventually) give them the confidence they need to deal with other issues. Having the situation & solution handed to them is disempowering & can be humiliating. They are more likely to feel judged, shamed, & are more likely to be defensive, resentful & resistant as a result. Not stepping in when it all seems obvious can be frustrating. (Which might be an ADHD thing, impatience.) But that frustration really is our problem.