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Post #4247407

2026-07-30 17:18 UTC

#trans folks and parents of teen trans, I would love some help. Our kid (18) is trans, and will be potentially starting Estrogen soon. We love and support our kiddo, 100%. That is not a question. As parents tho we are in uncharted territory for us. My wife admitted last night she is worried they might "change" somehow, which she fully calls anxiety, but it would be helpful to know more. Any supportive parents of trans kids willing to share experiences?

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  • @lockelyfox@transfur.social 2026-07-30 18:03

    @Sablebadger@dice.camp Not a parent, but a trans person myself, I would highly recommend you both sit down and give a read through of the Gender Dysphoria Bible to both have a better understanding of what your kid might be going through, and what to expect of estrogenic second puberty. https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

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  • @Sablebadger@dice.camp I was a little worried myself, because our son had anger issues since he was a tiny little girl, and testosterone doesn't have the reputation of calming those down. As with any adolescence, there are tons of ever-shifting factors, of course. But as the hormone blockers wound down and the testosterone ticked up, I've only noticed good things so far. He's become so much more comfortable in his body and more confident overall. Not everything's been a picnic, but the problems have related to his autism and (gestures to *all of this*) rather than his gender. Indeed, I've even found that his hormone-related changes provide a bridge back from the wilds of his mind; sometimes, if I can see him start to spiral, I can head off the fall by noting how his waist is straighter or his mustache is thicker. (Then, with him more present, we can deal with whatever has him upset - I don't use this to put off conversations.)

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  • @theZosia@mastodon.com.pl 2026-07-31 12:20

    @Sablebadger@dice.camp Y'know, puberty, first or second, can be a hell of a ride on it's own. Yes, there are changes going on, but now it should be easier to handle as they are expected and desired. From my experience (transitioning at 30+) one possible source of stress may be expectations vs reality, but I guess the results of HRT at younger age should be at least satisfying. Regarding mental/emotional changes - yes, there are such, especially if you add progesterone to the mix. Also missed estrogen dose = PMS, it's a real thing too. Food helps :D

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  • @Steve@social.coop 2026-07-30 17:27

    @Sablebadger@dice.camp I have a transmasc 16-year-old, who is also mildly autistic. Lots to figure out. The best you can do it take it one day at a time, and listen closely on the occasions they're willing to talk to you.

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