Is everything in your life the way you want it to be & you're comfortable & feel no angst?
2026-05-11 21:34 UTC
Replies (29)
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@helix@feddit.org 2026-05-11 22:31
World isn’t black or white. Both of your alternatives are extremes I don’t think in. Next to nothing is the way I want it to be, since I’m a perfectionist. But I don’t have a nagging feeling or angst, I just accept the world isn’t perfect most of the time.
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@Nemo@slrpnk.net 2026-05-11 22:44
❌ everything the way I want it ✅ comfortable ✅ no angst 🤷♀️ no nagging feeling 🤷♀️ sure how to achieve goals
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@Beth@piefed.social 2026-05-12 00:39
Sometimes being lonely hits like a truck. But it passes like grief that’s a few years old. Everything else is okayish. Have overcome the major life hurdles. Can’t complain.
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@HeHoXa@lemmy.zip 2026-05-12 02:41
I’m fairly sure this isn’t something human brains can do
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@Anchorxiety@reddthat.com 2026-05-12 02:51
I’m a man in my early 30s and I’m single with no kids, still living with my parents, and working a part time job. As far as material things go, I’ve got a pretty nice car, a powerful gaming PC, and some money saved up (although not enough to actually move out.) If I want some new clothes, a new game, or just something nice within reason, I can afford it. That mostly sounds great on paper, but I’m really not where I want to be in life. I have lots of free time and some disposable income, but I’m being held down big time by a lifelong struggle with panic attacks and agoraphobia which has severely affected my ability to have a social life and maintain a circle of friends. I’m also very afraid of flying and traveling so I’m not seeing the world. I’m grateful for the good things, but the bad things are having a bigger impact. I need someone to share my time with, and someone to help me get out more. Then I need to get full time work and move out.
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@detren@sh.itjust.works 2026-05-12 05:45
Well my life has been in constant turmoil since November. I broke up with my girlfriend of six years, moved out of our shared apartment into a flatshare in a mouldy shithole, got the majority of my friends to hate me from how I acted towards my ex, and now my kidneys have failed and I have been undergoing dialysis for nearly 2 months. This has caused me to be depressed, anxious all the time, and just plain lonely. Every day right now feels like a fight for survival. From high blood pressure giving me intense headaches, to fluid overload causing swelling everywhere and coughing from fluid in my lungs. Things just haven’t been going well for me. I also had to postpone my master’s thesis to next year. I still need to figure out what to do with that shared apartment, how to survive until the end of summer which is when I’ll hopefully have my transplant, and how to make friends again now that I’m an adult. Honestly if it wasn’t for my current girlfriend and my parents I don’t think I’d survive this, and I often feel like all this is my fault. It has also only recently hit me that yes, I am struggling, and things have been difficult, even if I never had to worry about things like money or having a roof over my head. I just wish for some rest.
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@Mothra@mander.xyz 2026-05-12 02:18
I might be sleeping in my car in six weeks time. What could be wrong
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@ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 2026-05-12 02:28
My wife of 30 years died a few months ago and I’m having to adjust to life without her. Life is freakin weird now … I feel like some kind of ghost that doesn’t exist … I feel like a big part of my life died with her and at the same time I feel like I’m alive but not fully … I’m alive but not fully … I feel like part of me disappeared but I didn’t die … quite honestly, sometimes I feel like a ghost that didn’t fully cross over and I’m stuck in this life until I can move on. I have a ton of supports, family and friends, work and things to do and I keep very busy with stuff … but all of it just doesn’t mean much to me any more. And family and friends keep telling me I have all the freedom in the world to do whatever I want … but you know what? … life is no longer enjoyable when you don’t have the person you want to share everything with. I had so many plans and things I really, really wanted to do … but now it’s all meaningless and pointless … I have no real enjoyment for many things any more. Even turning on the TV to watch something, anything no longer really thrills me and I watch something for a few minutes, my mind wanders and I have to go do something else. I go online and it’s the same thing, I read part of something and I have to move on to the next thing … I play video games and I can’t concentrate on it for too long. About the only thing left to me now is riding my motorcycle but I can’t even do that because the weather is still too cold here in northern Ontario … so I can’t even enjoy that. And in the meantime, I have to watch the world burn … life is just very strange for me at the moment.
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@disregardable@lemmy.zip 2026-05-11 21:39
Not perfectly, but I had a vision for where I wanted to be, and I more or less got there. I chose a reasonable short-term, stepping stone goal. I didn’t become brilliant, attractive, competent, or overcome my flaws. But like, I’m still here, and my life has marginally improved.
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@IWW4@lemmy.zip 2026-05-12 11:51
I manage the things that cause me angst. But here is the deal. I don’t want to work, but because of a combination of necessity and desire I have to work.
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@Lenins_Dumbbell@lemmygrad.ml 2026-05-12 03:15
I’m working a job I hate, I make very little money, I don’t do much outside of working 10-12 hour shifts and getting high after that. I visit my parents on weekends, so that’s good. Occassionally I meet my friends and forget how bad things are. These days I find myself praying for an economic collapse so I can stop going to work without feeling guilty. I don’t have much saved up but I’ll be able to take care of myself for about 2 years if I move back with my parents. I know I’m being selfish, but it’s one of the few things keeping me from removing myself. Also I’d like to see the US collapse before I flatline so I’m hanging on
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@folaht@lemmy.ml 2026-05-12 08:46
The US oligarchs are not suffering enough.
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@iByteABit@lemmy.ml 2026-05-11 22:36
It's not perfect, but I've got quite a few of the things I wanted to have when I was imagining the future back then. I've got a partner that I trust and love, I do the job that I wanted to be doing, albeit not the perfect company or the most satisfying position, I'm still in touch with the friends I wanted to keep (and happily not in touch with some of the rest), I'm no longer living with my parents and have two cats that are the perfect little creatures for company. Some things could be better, many of them completely out of my control. My current goal is to just make my lifestyle healthier, I'm too sleepy all the time because of staying late trying to regain the time lost doing the boring adult things, and I get exhausted and out of breath extremely easily.
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@bunkyprewster@startrek.website 2026-05-11 22:08
Yes. Except of course for the world falling apart, my country descending into fascism and impending climate diaster. But for me personally, things are entirely chill.
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@teslekova@sh.itjust.works 2026-05-12 01:09
I kinda broke into laughter when reading your question, at the absurdity of the idea. So that's probably a no. However, I'm doing better than I have been for a while, and am capable of laughter, so it's not all bad.
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@dusty_raven@discuss.online 2026-05-11 23:19
Well it WAS until you brought it up! >:(
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@apotheotic@beehaw.org 2026-05-12 07:04
I'm transgender and live in the UK, so no
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@butsbutts@lemmy.ml 2026-05-12 05:53
its alright, no major problems maybe could be better in some ways but could be a lot worse
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@monovergent@lemmy.ml 2026-05-12 03:07
First ignoring everything outside my direct control. Still no, but I know what I want in my personal life and I see the path to get there. If the world doesn't fall into chaos first. It'll just take time, but what better use of my youth? If the past few years have taught me anything, it's that trying to get there too fast will wreck my mind and body. I think a lot of it now comes down to having a 'Platonic ideal' for myself and not living up to it. Like strictly an internal matter, I'm fine with other people seeing me the way I am. Even if I lived in a secluded bunker, I'd still be bothered that my eating and sleeping habits suck, my time management needs work, my athleticism is lacking, I never finished learning German, and my screen usage is ruining my back and eyes. Actually, that would be kind of nice. I'd like to think that if I could be minimally- or un-employed but still well-housed and well-fed for a year, I could finally take a breath and go fix everything that's been nagging at me.
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@InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 2026-05-11 22:21
No. Next question.
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@SGG@lemmy.world 2026-05-11 22:16
I'm perpetually tired and stuck in a loop. Full time job, and carer for a disabled parent. It's not easy, I do get frustrated, but I would not change it because it would make things worse for mum.
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@dom@lemmy.ca 2026-05-11 21:54
There is always something I want that I dont have. I dont focus on it anymore outside of having goals. I focus more on the plan and executing and living in the moment and its helped my mental health tremendously. Having said that, im very fortunate to have all that I have, so its pretty easy for me to focus on the positives
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@Arrandee@lemmy.world 2026-05-11 23:55
I’m only aware of a lot of what I find distressing because of my superpowers. I can know what's happening everywhere in the world within minutes of it happening. Somebody I will never, ever meet in person can say something mean about me and put a shadow on my mood, if I choose to pay attention to it. My day-to-day is idyllic. Modest, urban, a bit ecclectic... but comfy, by American standards. Food, shelter, medicine, recreation, community, art, adventure, mobility, and friendship are all in adequate supply. I’m employed and paid fairly. Accepted by friends and family, valued by my colleagues. If my sphere of awareness and sphere of routine travel were the same, I would think myself a prince. But my sphere of awareness is **vast.** So, I know my comfort is a byproduct of privilege, which is withheld from millions of other deserving people because… *reasons.* I know there are other parts of the world where logic and justice and tolerance are in widespread, societally upheld ascendance, and that those places are far, far away from where I live. Immediately outside the personal bubble I labor to maintain, there's pain, violence, fear, hunger, and hatred. One misstep on my part and I could find myself there as well. I know that fear is wielded as a tool by people who live in fortresses made of money, by people who claim to represent the ideals of my nation, but only care that they are the winner and everybody else is the loser. So yes, there are many nagging feelings. I wish my comfort was more than the byproduct of somebody powerful wanting something from me. Much angst, as I sit in my comfortable chair with my expensive technology, in my lovely house on a gorgeous spring day. I wish I was stupider, less aware, less experienced in the motivations of horrible people.
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@sharkfucker420@lemmy.ml 2026-05-11 22:29
Of course not lmao. I'm pretty sure I will starve to death before I reach my parents age. Or at least experience famine.
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@ollie@pawb.social 2026-05-11 22:20
Not perfect, but its okay and I'm feeling pretty good about myself currently. Theres just a few personal things I want, and to be able to sustain myself in the future and be able to get a place.
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@fuckwit_mcbumcrumble@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2026-05-11 22:14
Is everything the way I want it? No, I could stand to lose a few pounds and be a bit stronger, make more money etc. But I am comfortable and feel no angst.
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@crash_thepose@lemmy.ml 2026-05-11 22:13
I wouldn't describe it as angst but I wouldnt say I'm satisfied with my life. The dilemma is that I also don't feel hopeful for the future. Ai (big tech generally) doesn't make me look forward to the future. And just my home country too.
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@GiorgioPerlasca@lemmy.ml 2026-05-12 02:32
"Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." John Lennon Also in Buddhism desire is a primary source of suffering. According to Taoism, the highest wisdom lies in aligning with the Tao: the natural, spontaneous way of the universe; rather than imposing one’s will upon it. So life is not what I desired it to be, but I am trying to stop wanting it otherwise.
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@corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 2026-05-12 02:14
No. Things are not as I naively wished. Things never are. But they can be their own kind of awesome, and that's okay.