Post #2195533

2026-04-16 18:07 UTC

@michcampbell@fediscience.org I must admit that I can't seem to get the balance right between mansplaining and shutting up completely I frequently misread women's phrasing and body language in a way that tells me they don't understand some important feature of "thing". So it absolutely FEELS in the moment like they need help. The only solution I can come up with is to back off and only offer help when it is expressly requested or actual harm seems imminent That has risks though

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@leeloo@c.im 2026-04-16 21:39

@screwturn@mastodon.social @michcampbell@fediscience.org From the chart: "Did you ask if she needed it explained?"

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@Rozzychan@fandom.ink 2026-04-17 00:50

@screwturn@mastodon.social @michcampbell@fediscience.org I suggest asking, "Am I saying too much?" If she says, "No" then go on. A desire to overexplain is common for teachers, ADHDers etc. Mansplaining is pretentious, but not usually deadly. A problem with mansplainers is they hog the conversation violating the give and take rules of a conversation. Usually there is no re-entering the conversation once the lecture has begun. Back in the day women were actuallly taught to encourage mansplaining to make the guy feel good.

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@sri@mastodon.social 2026-04-17 01:39

@screwturn@mastodon.social @michcampbell@fediscience.org It's very simple - the premise comes by asking whether they know the topic without assuming that they might not know. That's really it. That actually goes for males too. It's just common courtesy. But it's something you have to learn because some of us generationally grew up in a patriarchy.

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