Post #1389239

2024-02-05 14:01 UTC

Can confirm from the cis side that what @oddtail says about cis people is true. Like I don't even have strong genderfeels as a cis woman, nor am I super femme, but I would never ever willingly transition. Can't speak for all cis people obviously and there are outliers and exceptions in every group, such as heavy trauma from misogyny leading to a cis girl wanting to be a man--the detransitioners terfs love to use for scaremongering, but the truth is most who detransition aren't cis but rather nonbinary. However, it is by far not the definitive experience of a cis person to want to transition or be indifferent about transition, we will fucking fight the idea that we are anything but our assigned gender. If that doesn't describe you then it's definitely worthwhile to explore, at your own pace and chosen intensity, what might be up with that.

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@oddtail@meow.social 2024-02-05 14:37

@ljwrites I think transphobic cis people project their own hangups and prejudices on trans and non-binary people. As in, they think we absolutely want everyone to want what we want, and that we'd have a problem if someone thought about their identity and figured out "I'm cis". I'm pretty sure most of us don't have a problem with that. It's a reskin of that old "I'm not a feminist, because I can cook/want to marry/want to be a housewife". Everyone having their own sort of deal is the POINT. It's about autonomy and freedom. But since transphobe can't imagine things not being the way they want them to for EVERYONE, they conclude trans people must be the same way. So every little prod from a trans person to a questioning person is seen like propaganda and forceful "conversion" by transphobic people, because that's what THEY want to be able to do to trans and/or non-binary people xP

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@varve@weirder.earth 2024-02-06 04:29

@ljwrites @oddtail interesting, the whole notion of "fighting the idea that we are anything but our assigned gender" isn't one I realized cis folks had. I definitely don't want to transition to the other binary gender. But I don't particularly care if people use the other binary pronoun set for me. I had no idea the sense of gender was so strong! Oddly, I never questioned that it was strong enough in trans folks for them to push through the barriers and transition. Why *wouldn't* it be equally strong in people who are definitely cis? So yeah, I'm agender, heh. Any "transition" for me would be shedding the weight of gender assumptions.

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