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2026-03-28 09:06 UTC

@Maker_of_Things @Susan60 although we would have taken in one of my folks if they had needed it. So they did absolutely the right thing in telling us not to take that step. They have been there for everyone in the family all my life and currently visit my auntie daily to help with her needs in their 70s. We'd have probably done the same for her Dad (who passed away almost 15 years ago now) who did everything he could for the extended family as well. Sounds harsh I know :(

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@Susan60@aus.social 2026-03-28 21:31

@naturepunk @Maker_of_Things My BIL shared the care of his own mother in her own home with 2 sisters for 2-3 years. (1 sister insisted, mainly to preserve her inheritance. The other sister was a retired aged care nurse.) BIL carried the main burden - house & garden maintenance, all admin & was the back-up whenever sister 1 dropped out, which was often. It all fell apart when Covid came along. Both sisters were anti-vaxxers, they all got sick, & even with anti-virals, nurse sister & mum had heart attacks & nurse husband had massive, debilitating stroke. She now cares for him in their home, which BIL has modified. Very elderly mum is in care, visited several times a week by BIL but no one else…

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