ThePurpleOctopus 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️🇪🇺🇹🇼
@thepurpleoctopus@lgbtqia.space
Soft-inked greetings from ThePurpleOctopus 🐙 Queer, non-binary, trans, pan, polyam and many-armed, and thinking in several directions at once. I like curiosity, kindness, politics with teeth, art with feelings, and science done properly. I like languages, cats, cows, trains, and the Oxford comma. I'm a Translator and Teacher by trade, a Traveller by desire. Here to listen, to learn, to tangle gently, and to leave the tide a little warmer than I found it. [Berlin/Amsterdam]
lgbtqia.space
I am a giving person.
Sharing what little good I have has always brought me immense joy. A meal, a book, a spare hour, a kind word, a place to rest, if I have it, my instinct is to share it.
But life has this irritating habit of teaching the same lesson until one finally pays attention.
The older I get, the more I notice a pattern. Some people don't simply accept kindness; they calculate it. They see generosity not as a gift, but as an opportunity. The few boundaries I ask to be respected are treated as invitations to negotiate rather than limits to accept. And when I finally say "no", they appeal to my compassion, hoping guilt will accomplish what respect would not.
That doesn't feel like respect anymore. It feels a lot like emotional blackmail.
I don't understand it.
Why is the world so often like this? Why do some people see an open hand and immediately wonder how much more they can take?
I don't want to become hard. I don't want suspicion to replace generosity. I don't want every act of kindness or joy to come with a ledger and a lock.
All I've ever wanted is to be a little like a tree (of trees were purple): rooted in who I am, growing as well as I can, offering shade where I can, and standing not alone, but as part of a forest where we look after one another instead of stripping each other bare.
Perhaps that isn't naïve. Perhaps it's simply the kind of world worth trying to grow.
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#Kindness #Boundaries #MutualCare #Humanity #Community #Solidarity