sigh
Time to retrieve the nozzle.
A few years back, I may or may not have overtaken a ~202X Mustang who decided to cut off and brake check me, in a 2014 Prius C, and maintained that lead for 10 miles, till I lost sight of him and was at my exit, after switching to Highway Star.
It’s happening.
Fetch is finally happening.
… In basically the worst and stupidest way possible.
Yeah so it turns out that basically the entire field of cyber security is 95% a complete joke.
As evidenced by everything gets hacked all the fucking time and massive data breaches are so commonplace they’re usually barely newsworthy.
There of course are a small number of people who can actually oversee/implement reasonably secure code development, but, well, that costs money and takes time, but it does not cost anywhere near as much money or time to just confidently lie to people and pretend you know what you’re doing.
Governments tend to just defer to “industry experts”, which basically means ‘big dumb idiot corporation that verifies their robustness via a human centipede of paid consultants’.
It is difficult to get a man to understand something, when his salary depends upon his not understanding it!
Upton Sinclair, 1934
‘Sacred’ has a more colloquial meaning, and is more broad than purely as part of a religious doctrine.
https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/sacred
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a: unassailable, inviolable
b: highly valued and important
I also provided a secondary phrase after that word, with or preceding it, to specify what I meant.
And I appreciate your reply, though I do disagree.
(and for what its worth, i didnt downvote you)
I follow your food allergy metaphor, but this makes sense analogously only if you essentially do not view sex as any more sacred, or complex and meaningful, than food… you view it only as basic human need that is not entwined with the very emotional structure of a relationship.
Say that you’re both ostensibly members of a religion that forbids eating pork, or you’re both fairly hardcore vegans, and you in particular are also allergic to pork.
If your partner goes out and eats pork, away from you, yes this is not literally directly harmful to you, but it betrays the values that you both ostensibly claim to believe in.
Furthering the analogy, the partner could just say they’re not a member of that religion, or they’re not a vegan, or they have different interpretations of the concepts of those… and then you could say:
‘well, the beliefs that I have are important to me, and I thought that you had those same beliefs, and that they were important to you to… so if you do not have those beliefs, we should probably not be a couple.’
So, you have clarified your line of thinking, your preference or worldview or what you want to call it, but you have not explained how the preference or worldview that I explained is unethical.
I don’t inherently think that ENM or poly or relationship anarchy are inherently impossible to do ethically… I think they are difficult to do ethically, without causing a ton of drama, a lot of emotional distress and complexity…. but i do not think they are just de facto unethical in concept.
I do agree with you that monogamous relationships very often are problematic in that they come with baggage by way of people having unstated assumptions of what the roles and rules are.
But this can be solved with forthright communication and actually discussing with the partner what those roles and rules are or should be.
That goes the same for nonmonogamous relationships, they’re just inherently more complex as they involve more people.
Tons of people are, imo, not emotionally mature enough, not honest enough with themselves, do not have the communication skills required to be in any kind of a serious relationship, monogamous or otherwise.
How is consensual monogamy unethical?
Like really, you seem to genuinely hold the opinion you do, please explain to me how two people mutually agreeing to trust, support, love and fuck just each other … how is that unethical?
Yes, of course historically the concept is full of examples of other practices that get attached to it that are definitely harmful and bad.
Yes, there absolutely are a good deal of people who force monogamy on others as a means of control, who are hypocrites that don’t even follow the same rules or standards they impose on others.
But how is it inherently unethical for a fair and mutual relationship between just two people to exist?
Some people are into open relationships, ENM, polycules, just being a single stud or unicorn, etc.
Some people, arguably most people, either strongly prefer or can only emotionally handle having a single serious romantic relationship with one other person at a time.
The entire thing about cheating in a monogamous relationship is that it is lying, it is a massive breach of trust and respect.
If everyone involved is informed and onboard with expanding the relationship, that’s one thing… cheating is another.
For quite a lot of people, its not primarily that they want to posses or control their partner’s genitals.
Its that they want to be able to very thoroughly trust and relate to a single other person, to be the sole person that their partner also sees that way.
For these kinds of people, if their partner asked to open up the relationship, and they weren’t comfortable with it, they’re totally able to just realize at that point that their partner doesn’t want what they want, and just end the monogamous relationship, let their now former partner go pursue what they want.
So… how is this unethical?