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@cstross@wandering.shop enculturate might be more accurate in some ways, but it feels much less familiar which means it requires more explanation.

But I do think the lack of context is probably what's throwing people off, particularly in that they're so many steps removed from the definition.

"Socialized male" is basically shortened from "they socialized me male" (transitive verb form) vs people are confusing it with "I socialized with men" (intransitive verb form)

@tillshadeisgone I appreciate it, I won't pretend that I don't have my own racist blindspots or biases, and this helps me inspect them.

I personally want growth not as an arbitrary measure but just that I'm ultimately wanting the people I care about elsewhere to move off of corporate platforms enough that I myself can completely abandon those platforms.

I'll make a fuss often on areas where people are upset over ridiculous concerns (most commonly I've harped on people who post publicly and are upset that their public posts are visible to people they don't like), but I try to listen as a starting point and I appreciate you drawing attention to this behavior and problem.

I was planning to re-open my server to open registration, but you have me questioning that. (I mostly have the advantage of a less popular platform, friendica, and I took advantage of a setting that limits registrations per day)

@tillshadeisgone @welshpixie I had my instance on open registration until last year (closed because I couldn't guarantee reliability until after I moved to someplace safer)... and honestly it's a hard balancing act.

Those with open registration are the fediverse evangelists trying to grow the network and usually with the awareness that any friction in registration will drastically reduce adoption... But then you get situations like this which are an extremely valid reason against...

Given that the open registration problem won't practically go away outside of whitelist only networks (which are inherently very small)... we really need better tools to manage these instances from the outside (since we can't control the inside)

I'm genuinely curious what ideas people have that could help?

I've been mulling over the idea of figuring out a system for collaborating on blocklists so moderators or users who trust eachother can expand their response time and power to quickly shut down these problem users. (Yes, I'm aware that blocklists also get used to compile lists of people for various reasons, but that's just assholes using a random tool that's not even good at that job)

This makes me think that maybe we need settings on the various platforms to do things like hide users under a certain age. Or maybe blocklists of problem email addresses so they can be blocked from registration without also having to set up a new email account?