OK number two thing We all "value signal" How we speak, when we speak, what we say, how we stand, walk, eat, buy, are all social signals. Who we make friends with, the jokes we tell, the jokes we laugh at, what we wear, how we wear it, when we wear it, why we wear it, are all social signals. Who you find attractive and who finds you attractive is a fuzzy calculation made MAINLY by unconscious processing in parts of your brain that you know very little about, based on an information-dense feed