If you don't understand how painful it can be for #ActuallyAutistic folk to listen to allistic people talk about us and over us while excluding us from the conversation... Think about what it's like for minorities when white people talk about racial issues, for women when men talk about women's issues, or for queer folk when straight people talk about queer issues. There are plenty of autistic people around to include in the conversation. Stop excluding us from discussions of our own issues!
Has anyone ever seen a news show have an autistic person on to discuss autistic issues? It's always some pediatrician or child psychologist, never anyone who actually understands autism, and especially never anyone who knows anything at all about autistic adults. It's maddening!