kindnesskills

Changed it for fun, because I like it more. No regrets.

Nightmarish. Can you make the AI write up new documentation every time you want to push a change, so it looks like you’re using it frequently but you still get to write the code yourself? I would love letting LLM deal with documentation. It’s the bane of my existence.

Look into green roofs. Might be a larger project to get started, than simply buying a fan, but will probably last longer and improve air quality as well as reduce heat. Even better if you can get your neighbours involved and give multiple homes green roofs together, to improve outdoors heat and air for the whole neighbourhood as well as for you individual home.

Search for and focus on their positive qualities, and respind to those instead of their current words. Almost everyone have some positive qualities. Finding them makes bearing their negatives easier.

What’s your definition or idea of a “socialist economy”?

It's a security clearance thing. But there's also talks of instead easing up on the requirements for different levels of security clearance, so we'll see where it ends up.

Best job I've ever had, both regarding benefits+salary, assignments, and work culture/colleagues/management.

I have not yet but may soon be required to give biometrics (fingerprints, possibly eye scan) to my employer. I haven't decided yet what to do if it comes to that... know I'm giving random tech conglomerates far more in exchange for far less, but this one feels more invasive and personal. But I'll probably do it if needed. I like this job, and I trust them more than I trust these tech giants I sell my data to, just for a glimpse of the online hellscape.

I see no moral imperative to tell people about others financial status unless not knowing would directly harm them, like if they were about to lend money to someone known to not repay their debts. People don’t have a right to know everything about everyone. In this scenario my sons wealth would not negatively impact those relatives so I have no moral obligation to tell them. In fact, telling them even risk harming my sons relationships and physical and emotinal and social wellbeing, so it’s more immoral to tell my relatives about this.

An issue I observe in kids is that children lack positive, physically available, male role models. Women can raise kids to be very tender and empathetic, but at some point most boys will start to model themselves after the men they see around them. I guess the issue then exacerbate if they as adults are surrounded by only men who don't check each others behaviour, but I have no eyes in men-only groups. I would not volunteer to socialise men, as I do enough free emotional labour for the men in my life as it is. I might consider it if it was well paid and didn't interfere with my actual job or hobbies. But honestly it sounds a bit scary, like the sort of event that would draw in angry hateful men who are looking for ways to be triggered by women speaking their mind, along with the ones open to learning, plus I abhor public speaking so it sounds like a terrible way to spend my precious time. Men need to be the ones modelling safe behaviour for boys, and men need to be the ones telling other men off when they behave like dogs and teach them how to control themselves. I second the person saying dance lessons. There have been plenty of men in my group that have been shy or nervous or socially awkward, but everyone who follows dances with everyone who leads (which is usually but not exclusively a male/female split). (Ps. Are you aware of asexuality? Might be something to look into for yourself)

I haven’t read the book, but I think there is a big difference between a flawed character and a flawed message. Like: Is it just that the flawed character is saying that other girls are shallow and leeches onto popular boys without having anything to offer, or is the book/story/author agreeing and implying it with how the other female characters act when not observed through that character or by never having that flawed presumption challenged? A character having internalised misogyny and mood swings can be them clearly being torn between their fear of abandonment and their love or attraction because they are a flawed character written very well, or it can be lazy writing with no clear character understanding or reason for their erratic changes, depending on how its done. Some of my favourite pieces of media is with characters I would absolutely hate in real life, or who are deeply flawed but understandable and/or not rewarded for it.

Attraction is not love, not enough for a relationship. She can tell that you don’t care about her enough, but since youre in a relationship you say that you do… so she must be really confused and suffering because she either denies the validity of your relationship or denies what she knows is true about your lack of care for her. Should she trust you or her own senses, you know… Surely you can see how mean it is to put someone through that? To trap her in a relationship where you don’t want to be her actual partner and love all of her?

I would like to know how much time you actually spend with your girlfriend, because from what I see here… yeah. You’re not being a good partner. She tells you she want to be more of a priority and get more time and attention from you, and your solution is to tell her she can get time with you when your actual priority (Max) is busy. That’s exactly the issue - you choose Max over her when there is a choice, and only choose her when there are no “better” opinions because Max is busy. Not to mention choosing TV over your girlfriend. Based on this, you need to think about whether you actually have time and space in your life for your girlfriend and if you are willing to prioritise being a good partner. Maybe you are happy with your life as it is and don’t actually want to change it to incorporate a romantic partner. That’s absolutely fine, but be honest about it and don’t try to have your cake and eat it too. Relationship takes time and work, no one can keep their life and routines as is and add a partner without making changes to incorporate the relationship. Do you like her enough to choose her and be her partner, not as a label but as a way of life? Asking ones parter to be part of their life and be more of a priority is not “drama”, saying that sounds really dismissive and that is quite often used to keep women quiet and shamed, so be mindful of how you perceive your own girlfriend. No one is immune to internalising sexism regardless of gender. Of course there is the possibility that you already call her an hour every day and she’s being unreasonable in you wanting ten min to talk to your friend (with the four hour chat being the only time you talked longer than that), if so disregard the above.