Darcranium

It’s hard to predict who you will fall for in 2,5, or 10 years. You will want to be honest with that person, and it might turn them off to know your history. Luckily, after enough time has passed, and you’ve really worked on yourself, it shouldn’t really matter what you did 10-20 years ago. In my opinion, you are better off finding yourself a consistent fuck-buddy for in between relationships. A mutual arrangement, rather than a bunch if one night stands, is much safer for your mental health (assuming no one catches feelings).

This is coming off as defensive, which I expected after making a comment like that. Could it be that I said something you weren’t ready to hear? I have known men and women with 10-20 body count who have no issues in relationships because that’s just natural exploration. But spending more time focusing on sex than working on your self DEFINITELY has an effect on your ability to maintain a LTR. You have to feel the loneliness and embrace it, sometimes. You have to use your excess energy to workout, volunteer, make friends, go to therapy, learn a trade, and meet yourself, instead of putting it into a bunch of random (or toxic) partners you don’t really care about. If you can’t focus your energy on constructive things, your soul suffers. You get weak/soft, and uninteresting as a partner. It took years for me to build up real inner strength again and women notice that shit. This is not just advice for women, it’s advice for men too. It takes months to know someone, and even longer to get over them if you’ve had sex with them. There’s a limited amount of time we have in our 20s, and if you have sex with a bunch of people too early, you’ve probably wasted that time.

I have no problem with them doing it, I just probably would never date anyone who has had an only fans. It’s something young women/men should be aware of that they automatically exclude themselves from a huge part of the dating pool when they make a decision like that. If they are ok with that, more power to them! Kind of like having 30+ sexual partners. It seems to take pieces of your soul, and it takes decades of work to get those pieces back together in my opinion. Most people are inherently turned off by that for a reason.

I love this. But I feel like Handoval might go over better