Comrade_Spood

Yeah basically. Like yeah generalizations are bad, like you say. But when we play the "not all straights" or "not all men" game, we are detracting from very real and very harmful issues facing a community. There is a reason women overwhelmingly pick the bear over the man in the hypothetical, and a man saying "not all men" does nothing to make that women want to pick him over the bear. Honestly, it often times would probably make the woman even more likely to pick the bear. Cause what you are doing is effectively making the topic about you, and you are telling the person "your generalization is more important to me than the problem you are talking about." And because the people talking about the problem are marginalized (by definition, people without an influential voice), it only further covers up the message. As a white, straight-passing, and cis-passing man, yeah of course it hurts when I feel like someone is lumping me in as the problem. But I know its not my fault, and that its not really attacking me. And I know this because I try my damnedest to be an accomplice, not just an ally.\* Basically, be the reason why they dont feel the need to generalize anymore, show dont tell. \*There is a very good zine called "Accomplices Not Allies: Abolishing the Ally Industrial Complex" written by Indigenous Action that I highly recommend. There is also another zine called "Queers Read This" that I also highly recommend. I linked both below. Also thank you for engaging in good faith and being willing to listen

Read my reply to walk_blessed and you'll get the nuance. I explain how its different from white supremacists generalizing black people.

Yeah, like white supremacists doing it are not victims talking about real oppression, they are pieces of shit leveling stereotypes and misinformation to slander their victims. A queer person saying straight people force straightness down their throat is not the same as a straight person saying queerness is forced down their throat. One is a reflection on how straightness is deemed normal and safe and so is represented as the default, and the other is being uncomfortable outside of your tiny bubble and accusing people just wanting to be represented as some sort of personal attack. Intent and context are huge

They are talking about a trend with straight people, not accusing every straight person of being a rapist. Rule of thumb, if someone critiques an identity that you are a part of and the critique doesnt apply to you then its probably not about you. Coming in and saying this type of shit makes you seem like an asshole who isnt listening to marginalized peoples' struggles. Like for example I hear houseless people complain about nurses and doctors a lot because they tend to assume they are dope-seeking. If I was a nurse, I would listen and do my best not to be the kind of person they are talking about. I would not tell them "You should stop generalizing, cause I don't do that." It feels very invalidating and makes you come off as very self-centered. I aint gonna say people couldn't rephrase better to avoid over generalization, but just saying that lets stop making it about ourselves when people are talking about real and serious problems affecting them. Be an active listener and dont be a part of the problem if you aint gonna be a part of the solution

Havent tried Fluxer, but Stoat has no screensharing and mobile cant voice chat. Plus they dont have a google-free version for Android, so I cant use the android mobile app. I recommend Game-Vox

Game-Vox has been very good I found. Having some serious audio problems, but they are actively fixing it. Has pretty much all the features Discord has (with voice chat being a temporary exception for me atleast), like screensharing, channels, functioning mobile app, roles, plus the added benefits of being self-hostable and opensourced. I have found it is the most complete Discord alternative out there, rough edges included.

He’s at a horse auction, and doesnt want the auctioneer to think he raised his hand (thus placing a bid). At least I’m pretty sure thats whats going on

Thats the one on the left

It was a Vine

We had 9+10=21 so I do not think we have a high horse to sit on

You’re forgetting the most relevant one. Whats 9+10? 21

Quick correction. We didnt steal it, we used it because of the British, then the British decided they didnt like the term anymore and swapped to “football” and Americans just kinda kept using it. Same thing with imperial measurements. They were invented by the British, we used them cause we were a british colony, then Britain changed their mind and Americans stuck with the original. Long story short, British invent something and the Americans use it cause former british colony, then the british change their mind and then make fun of the Americans while the pretend they werent the people who invented it in the first place. Its some gaslighting bullshit