Post #855938

2026-03-26 20:15 UTC

When you&#39;re trans, so many people tell you how hard it is for them. How hard it is to lose the person they thought you were. How hard it is to adapt to the person you are. How hard it is to use the right name. How hard it is to use the right pronouns. How hard...how hard....how hard...over and over again, excuse after excuse after excuse. Despite telling you how hard it is, almost none of those people will spend any amount of time thinking about how hard your life has been for you.

Replies (8)

@faithisleaping@anarres.family 2026-03-26 20:16

@eleanor It's fucking exhausting. 😩

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@ghost_bird@weirder.earth 2026-03-26 20:20

@eleanor :heart_trans: :transknife:

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@MedeaVanamonde@beige.party 2026-03-26 21:43

@eleanor @dbdean Fuck yeah!

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@koalou@lgbtqia.space 2026-03-26 21:49

@eleanor "It's hard to have to remember who you're out to to use the appropriate name and gender depending on who we're talking with." And what do you think I am doing? 🙄

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@burnoutqueen@todon.nl 2026-03-27 00:59

@eleanor "oh oh oh it's so hard seeing you come into your own as a woman" Boo fucking hoo fuck you.

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@jojo@lgbtqia.space 2026-03-27 01:20

@eleanor Real. Just because I "wanted" to transition doesn't make it easy. And most of the "hard" crap they talk about is the crap that kept me from transitioning in the first place. Because it seems too fucking hard.

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@mees@sunny.garden 2026-03-27 10:15

@eleanor buncha weirdos. You're becoming happier and more yourself. They should be happy for you! And yes, changing names and pronouns takes effort. But we're all putting in effort for the people we love. And even for strangers. So, pfft.

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@alice@mk.nyaa.place 2026-03-26 21:28

@eleanor@chaosfem.tw thankfully only one person did this in my case (and fairly quickly stopped), but then again I'm not out to most relatives

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