Post #50675
2025-12-10 23:31 UTC
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@zz31da@piefed.social 2025-12-10 23:41
I don’t agree with putting down a dog unless they’re suffering. If a dog is in pain and there is no hope that they’ll recover, death can be mercy. It’s never not terrible. But your feelings aren’t the priority in that situation. Just don’t ever do it at the vet - find someone who can come to you so there’s no extra stress fuck this is depressing
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@kubofhromoslav@lemmy.world 2025-12-10 23:48
Well, first of all I see you love your dog and deeply care about 🤗 This is a kind of decision that no one should be forced to face. But nature forces us so… When it comes to end of life decision, it is possible to cryopreserve your dog, so in the future, when veterinary medicine advances a lot, they could reanimate your dog and provide many, many more years of healthy life. All the thing about reanimation is still speculative currently (unless your pet is a small worm C. Elegans…). If you are interested, you may search CryoPets and Tomorrow Biostasis. Best luck 🤗
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@Nulubez@sh.itjust.works 2025-12-10 23:51
I have a small dog that isn’t yet 5yo but has lots of seizures. We keep upping meds but we are hitting points where we can’t add any more. The drugs make her hungry all the time and more recently she has started to stumble and walk into things. I could take all drugs away and shed surely sieze to death but that seems cruel. At this point my wife and I agree no crazy surgeries and if we get multiple instances of incontenance in a week, new decisions will trigger
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@nocturne@piefed.social 2025-12-10 23:57
We had to put down our 21 year old cat two years ago. Mentally she was fine, but her body was failing her. She was having a hard time controlling her body when walking, she would bump walls, fall off the back of the couch when trying to lay down. It was a very difficult decision to make.
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@HubertManne__dup_8041@piefed.social 2025-12-11 00:02
Im a big right to die person and so wish robust right to die laws were common. I would love to be able to make a doc to say give me an overdoes of barbituates rather than just let me suffer until I expire. I have had to put down animals and while married. Mostly my wife and I discuss the animals quality of life. It comes down to if we would rather be put down or live in their situation. Dogs are not that different for us and we evolved with similar desires. I believe we can make the call. Now granted my dog lived with a lot of issues before being put down and dogs are so generally willing to show happiness that it was way passed time were we would want to be put down. Part of its just hard. We don’t want to do it and its incredibly painful for us. The survivors. This is why we discuss so that don’t let her suffer to much. It makes us come to terms with her reality. Ok. gonna go cry now.
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@tburkhol@lemmy.world 2025-12-11 00:06
This is one of those questions where it’s very easy to project one’s vision of their own mortality onto the mirror of their pet. Like, for me, personally, I dread becoming so enfeebled that the tasks of daily life slip beyond my strength, to say nothing of mental incapacity, and I very much do not want to live that way. I know people who would rather lie in bed, maintained by machines, ass wiped by a stranger, for years than give up. We can’t ever know what the internal life of our pets is like, can’t know if they’re aware of their own mortality in the way that we are, but we will be responsible for their geriatric care and end-of-life decisions. ‘What I would want for myself,’ is the best place to start.
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@Today@lemmy.world 2025-12-11 00:08
It’s merciful but it’s incredibly difficult. What would you want someone to do for you? When you come home and your 20 year old dog is lying on the floor in a puddle of pee, poo, vomit, and blood and can’t get up it’s likely time (or past time) to help him go, but you’ll still feel terrible about it When your blind dog with liver cancer is at the date your vet thought she would pass; she still lifts her ears and wags her tail a bit when you walk in, but she also can’t hold bowel or bladder, vomits most days, and has to get carried to the yard; and you put her down a few days before you have surgery knowing you won’t be able to clean the floor or carry her for a couple of weeks, you’ll feel guilty and selfish and like you killed your dog because she was an inconvenience even though everyone tells you it was the right thing to do.
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@Zephorah@discuss.online 2025-12-11 00:14
I agree with legalizing assisted suicide for terminally ill humans. As such, if the pets quality of life at the end of life declines that much, then yes. Sometimes the treatments make things worse. For example, on the human side, people may not want to spend most of their last days in hospitals hearing machines beep and sleeping in an uncomfortable hospital bed. They want to go home, be comfortable, and die not in pain. Fair. In states where it’s legal, that sometimes means taking prescribed euthanasia on their terms, rather than letting the cancer do it. Sometimes it means just having the option close by as a reassurance while letting the cancer take them, but I digress. How much do our pets like the vet? Staying overnight? Considering that at the end, alongside pain, is something we have to weigh in these decisions. Unfortunately, unlike humans, our pets can’t make that decision for themselves. You’ll have to decide for them. When is enough enough? What’s the balance between their pain and your want to have them with you? None of us can tell you that answer. The only real advice I can give you is to listen to them, really listen to them, and don’t allow your personal pain drown out their voice. Humans or animals.
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@deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 2025-12-11 00:15
I have an 18yo dog. She’s very near the end of her life. Deaf, hair falling out, slowly losing motor control and strength, and can’t climb stairs anymore. She’s still happy, and doesn’t appear to be suffering even though she does require a bit of extra care now. I can’t bring my self to euthanize her, because she can’t make the decision unlike a human could. I hope that one day we wake up and she’s died peacefully in her sleep.
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@MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 2025-12-11 00:28
I’m not sure on the answer myself, but did you get one thing wrong. Even the oldest, sickest pet will still make an effort to keep themselves alive however they can: eating, drinking water, moving out of the way of danger, etc. No, they won’t. Plenty of illnesses cause apathy, dehydration, or loss of appetite. Causes vary from pain so intense moving is unberable, or nausea so severe food is inedible. It can be mental, physical, easily treated, or incurable and eventually lethal. Either way, pets can and absolutely do choose inaction when miserable enough.
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@blackbrook@mander.xyz 2025-12-11 00:38
I don’t think you can decide in the abstract and I don’t think there is a one-size-fits all answer. Every pet’s (and person’s) decline is different. You may get to a point where you have to make a decision, but the specifics of that point are always different, and being in the situation is not the same as trying to imagine it.
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@Maeve@kbin.earth 2025-12-11 00:26
Do for your pets what you think you'd want for yourself, sans religious and societal opinions influencing your choice.
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@Sickos@hexbear.net 2025-12-11 00:51
Cats will readily voluntarily starve themselves to death if their food isn’t up to their standards.
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@Melobol@lemmy.ml 2025-12-11 00:54
Looking at other comments I will point out one thing nobody mentioned so far: keeping an old per alive is not always cheap. You have to calculate the cruel numbers against the gain or loss also. You could give an other neglected - abandoned pet a new life, instead of making your loved one to slowly expire. Or I do not wish the situation on anyone, but pet meds vs human food can come into play too.
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@swelter_spark@reddthat.com 2025-12-11 00:57
I always want my pets to die naturally of old age. It’s very peaceful. I’ve only put a couple to sleep, and they had aggressive cancers.
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@thejoker954@lemmy.world 2025-12-11 01:03
If they’re suffering let it end - if they can still maintain a good quality of life let them live… I’m also for human euthanasia. No matter the amount of love - if the pain is unmanageable or their quality of life is shit let them go.
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@bastion@feddit.nl 2025-12-11 01:04
I think that both putting your pet down and not doing so must be an honest consideration. As their caretaker, you can empathize with them the most. Imagine what you would want in their situation, and do it. You have the ability to cognize this - they do not. There are humane services that will come to your home so they don’t even have to leave a familiar environment. But sometimes, your buddy still has joy in life, even though he’s all wobbly. …in the end, the truth is that it’s a judgment call, and you do the best you can - and make your choices in a way that, if they were there in your head with you, and could understand your choices, they would love you for it.
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@MarmiteLover123@hexbear.net 2025-12-11 01:05
All animals want to keep living, that’s literally why animals evolved brains in the first place, to keep their bodies alive for as long as possible. How can you, who is not the pet, say for sure they would prefer to die than keep living? You can’t ask them, and you can’t get in their mind to determine how much they still appreciate being alive. Even the oldest, sickest pet will still make an effort to keep themselves alive however they can: eating, drinking water, moving out of the way of danger, etc. As far as I know, no animal (at least the animals we keep as pets) have an instinct to just give up and stop going through the motions of life past a certain age. While it’s not an instinct, I’ve known friends and family members who have had dogs and cats who stopped putting in the effort to eat and drink at the very end. At that stage, you know that it’s over…
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@realitaetsverlust@piefed.zip 2025-12-11 01:06
Even the oldest, sickest pet will still make an effort to keep themselves alive however they can: eating, drinking water, moving out of the way of danger, etc. That’s wrong. Especially old cats are very prone to just not eat when they’re old and sick.
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@Sumocat@lemmy.world 2025-12-11 01:08
I don’t know about dogs, but since the prompt states “pets”, I will point out that cats may leave (or hide if they are not allowed out) to die alone if they sense it. My oldest tried to leave, but he returned a week after we gave up the hunt and was diagnosed with an aggressive tumor when we had him checked out. Inoperable. Put him down after it broke through the skin and literally started rotting. Only one who tried to leave. Second had a brain tumor, would not have been able to find his way out. Third had jaw cancer, put him down to avoid removing half his face. Fourth died of natural causes: a horrifying seizure. I would not recommend waiting for natural causes.
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@Carl@hexbear.net 2025-12-11 01:32
It’s too case by case to make a sweeping statement. Sometimes a pet’s quality of life is extremely bad, sometimes an animal’s instincts will tell it to stop eating, sometimes you could have an old pet that does that and think that they’re going but then it turns out they have a totally treatable kidney issue and go on to live five more years after two weeks of pills. That last one happened to me with my thirteen year old cat who went on to live until eighteen. I wouldn’t put down an animal unless they were suffering and an expert told me there was no way out of it - but of course that’s easy to say in isolation, when in the real world vet visits cost money. I guess what I’m saying is that I wouldn’t judge someone on the decision they made for their pet unless it seemed that they were acting without compassion, like that one politician who euthanized a healthy dog because it had behavior issues instead of trying to re-home it.
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@Comrade_Cat@lemmygrad.ml 2025-12-11 01:40
I can’t sit my pets down and explain to them what chemo is or that they’re going to have an invasive surgery and may get better afterwards. All they know is that they love me, but they’re in pain. You may question it for a long time afterwards, but if they’re miserable and don’t understand why then keeping them around is more for your benefit than theirs. I’ve spent way too much money getting care for a sick, young cat because I knew the pain would be temporary and they could get back to their bonded half and recover quickly and I’ve had to put down a dog that could have lived a few more years because their dementia had become so bad they were confused and lost constantly, even when in the same room as I was. Compassion and love are always important, but you can’t explain to them why they’re in pain, only save them from needless suffering.
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@InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 2025-12-11 01:55
Humans are already imposing upon our pets and depriving them of their autonomy, simply by keeping them in captivity. Any argument against merciful euthanasia grounded in concerns about how it is imposing are moot. As for pulling human euthanasia into this context, do yourself a favor and don’t. You might be surprised at how common euthanasia is in humans. At least in my part of the world, it’s largely a wink-wink nudge-nudge situation, but it does happen with some regularity. Also for people who are actually suffering in decline, there are all kinds of supportive care options being provided that simply aren’t feasible or economical for pets. There’s also not really the potential for the same kinds of perverse intentions with pets as there might be for people. Like, the list goes on. So, basically from either of those two perspectives, let alone the fact that both apply, the argument against euthanizing pets that you’ve presented fall apart. Having said that, this is often not a simple and straightforward decision. But since we’ve already established that we’re imposing upon them one way or the other, it really comes down to what kind of imposition do you want? The animal is going to die soon one way or the other. You can impose upon it and force it to experience the pain and fear and discomfort of its body naturally shutting down over the course of days, weeks, or months. You could impose upon it and decide to euthanize. What can you live with? On a more personal note, I’ve had to have 2 pets euthanized. One was a cat who managed to escape outside, it got hit by a car and then a neighbor’s dog mauled it. Literally pieces of broken rib and punctured lung exposed as well as untold other injuries. No hope of recovery. The idea of letting it suffer another moment was not something I could live with and it was going to die anyway. The other was a dog with congestive heart failure. There comes a point where there are no more medications and no higher doses that are effective. The animal literally is experiencing the sensation of drowning. They’re terrified and in pain, exhausted, and suffering. The vet might be able to alleviate it a few hours or even a couple of days with a procedure to manually remove the fluid, but then you’re just going to put the animal through this again and soon. I could not live with myself forcing the dog to endure that knowing there was another option. Plus, I have seen the pet owner that refused euthanasia and wanted their pet to die a natural death. The dog had cancer. I’m honestly broken up enough just thinking about what I witnessed that I can’t even bring myself to type it out. So I’ll stop there other than to say I’ve seen people dying of cancer in their final hours – there is a world of difference in those things, at least in modern times. The pet was clearly distressed, in pain, and suffering. The people are being made comfortable with drugs and medical care.
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@daannii@lemmy.world 2025-12-11 01:57
Euthanizing pets has always been the rule rather than the exception in my family. We are all big animal lovers and often end up with older pets that have no home. When the animal gets to a point where it’s crying in pain often or can no longer eat or walk or some combination of those 3, we usually take the animal to the vet and have them euthanized. We (my family) don’t believe in making an animal suffer for our own wishes that they would stay alive. It seems selfish. Some people will keep an animal in pain, alive for a long time. That’s their choice. But I think ethically, it’s wrong. Let them go peacefully surrounded by those who love them. Also I’m pro self euthanizing for the same reasons. But that’s a different topic.
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@AFKBRBChocolate@lemmy.ca 2025-12-11 02:03
I’m an old guy, and have had lots of pet over my life. so I’ve thought about this a lot. Years ago I came to the position that the most compassionate thing to do for my pets was to try and assess if their days are more full of joy, or more full of pain and suffering. We can’t ask our pets that, we can only do our best to figure it out. If they’re spending more time suffering than enjoying their lives, then I think it’s a kindness to put them down. We don’t usually have to make that decision for other humans, because they can decide for themselves. Note that we do make the decision sometimes to “pull the plug” on people rather than keep the alive. Also note that animals do sometimes go off to die when they’re sick and miserable. In fact, when dogs and cats have illnesses that are miserable but treatable, we sometimes have to be careful that they don’t go off to die before treatment is done.
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@Lumelore@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2025-12-11 02:16
My nearly 13 year old beagle was put down last week. I didn’t want to put him down and I cried for a long time both before and after. He had Cushing’s disease and he got to the point where he could no longer walk or stand. He stopped being interested in food and he stopped responding to his name and things happening around him. If we didn’t put him down I don’t think he would have lived much longer and he probably would have died in pain. When dogs are euthanized they give them a sedative and he looked extremely peaceful before he passed away. The way I see it is that everything has an end. It’s just a part of existence that you have to accept. While I am extremely sad that he passed away, I am also extremely happy that he existed and that he was my dog.
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@1egg4u@lemmy.world 2025-12-11 02:37
I just wanna throw my own anecdote in here too; I was also really uncomfortable and uncertain making the decision but my dog got to the point where he was 17, blind, partially deaf, had nose polyps, and wasnt keeping food down or able to control his bladder for the last few days. I knew he was suffering and I didnt want his last days to be spent laying limp on a blanket in the living room hungry and in pain and he had started getting cognitive decline too and was starting to act scared because of it combined with his blindness. The vet came over, i ordered mcdonalds chicken nuggets specifically just for my dog even if he wasnt able to eat them all, he got wrapped up in his favourite fuzzy blanket and the vet gave him a hero dose of the best doggy morphine im assuming money can buy OP I knew I made the right choice when I saw aaaaall the pain leave his body when the painkillers hit. I was so used to him looking like the cryptkeeper I had forgotten what it looked like to see my dog without any pain in his joints or anxiety from his blindness. He transformed back into the happy little dog I knew right in front of my eyes and then he gently died being held by the people he loves with a belly full of nugs instead of wasting away for god knows how much longer. It can feel wrong to make that decision for someone else but when I saw how much pain he had truly been carrying this whole time for the last parts of his life I realized it really was mercy and if I were in the same situation I would want that for me. Unfortunately sometimes waiting CAN take too long. My dog was suffering and I wish I had seen it sooner but I waited and waited because he still had “good” days even if those good days were fewer and farther between. It hurts to think that he may have suffered when he didnt have to which is a harder thing to live with imho than choosing to guide him out gently.
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@luciole@beehaw.org 2025-12-11 03:40
Don’t listen to anyone trying to shame you into agreeing with their view about something so profound. You are entitled to your own philosophy on the matter.
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@captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 2025-12-11 06:52
I’ve had a few creatures put down. My grandmother’s dog was in such bad heart health she couldn’t really move around anymore. When the creature shakes and whimpers under the strain of standing up, and sometimes just randomly screams in pain, it’s about time to make that difficult trip to the vet. My old cat Spice lived to the ripe old age of 18, and then she had a saddle thrombus. Essentially a blood clot blocked her aorta where it forks to her back legs. Her back beans turned cold and blue, she couldn’t walk right, she was obviously in distress, so we rushed her to the emergency vet where we were told at her age she probably wasn’t going to survive any treatment, and that she probably had about 3 more horribly painful hours to live. She was actively dying, it was a question of how long do we let her lay there gasping? I let it get about that grim before it becomes an option.
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@Knossos@lemmy.world 2025-12-11 06:57
There are extremes. There are a lot of posts in this thread already detailing positive cases for euthanasia. My wife worked as a vet tech assistant and she told me once of a case where someone brought their dog in. Diagnosis was terminal, but that the dog was in good condition right now, and would likely not have any discomfort for months. They chose to euthanise immediately. I guess the owner didn’t want to deal with the reminder every day? But that feels wrong to me.
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@Cethin@lemmy.zip 2025-12-11 08:52
All animals want to keep living, that’s literally why animals evolved brains in the first place, to keep their bodies alive for as long as possible. Absolutely not. Brains evolved because it gave an evolutionary advantage. They developed from just sensing light, giving an adavtange to finding food, into more complex forms, but every stage is just because it allowed them to survive long enough to reproduce usually, and, for most animals, not much longer. Most animals don’t have an advantage to keeping elderly populations alive. At best, they’re a drain on resources and can’t contribute with fighting, hunting, foraging, or whatever else. Humans are special in that we can pass down information, and elderly people have amassed a lifetime of information. Animals in nature don’t really survive that long, so there is not an evolutionary pressure for what you’re claiming. Their bodies failing is literally evidence to the contrary. As far as I know, no animal (at least the animals we keep as pets) have an instinct to just give up and stop going through the motions of life past a certain age. Doesn’t that imply they always want to live? This isn’t totally true. Some things will cause them to stop going through the motions that keep them alive. Regardless, performing the actions that are baked into us evolutionarily does not equal a conscious choice. We (animals) will almost always eat, drink, sleep, etc. even if we want to die. If not, suicidal people would just decide to stop, instead of having to do more extreme things. Evolution has baked behaviors into us that are hard to overcome, even if we’re conscious of it. I consider the decision to no longer live past a certain age and certain number of health problems to be a uniquely human thing… I find this weird. It may be (unprovable either way), but you’re ascribing so many human traits to these animals, but then refusing to entertain the idea that they may want to die in order to stop being in pain. Why? I feel like you’re showing some biases here, and if you really want to understand your opinion you need to figure out what that is. But if they don’t die right after taking them off life support, you can’t just straight up kill them, they need to die by themselves. Why isn’t this philosophy applied to pets, who can never consent to euthanasia? The difference is the pet will never be able to consent. I assume the rule of taking them off life support exists to require it to take time. This way they have a small window where they could come to. I don’t know though. It could also be a morality thing of not wanting to actively take a person’s “life” (if you can call it that). I suspect this could change in the future, with increasing acceptance of assisted suicide, for example. Making them die from (presumably) dehydration seems much more cruel to me if they can feel anything. I don’t have a strong opinion either way. Do what you think is right for your pet. In my opinion though, suffering is something that should be minimized. That’s true for raising animals for food, for humans, for pets, etc. It depends on the pet, but if they are in constant pain and can’t really live life on their own (which would cause them to die in nature) then I’d consider euthanasia. I would at least not consider doing any expensive or invasive healthcare to keep them alive.
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@fizzle@quokk.au 2025-12-11 09:15
You’ve missed a few critical elements. Firstly, pets can’t reason, don’t understand what’s happening to them, and the worst part - aren’t able to minimise their own suffering. For example, I lived with a dog that had quite advanced cancer in one leg. Every time he got up he would hurt himself. The leg just couldn’t support his weight but he couldn’t not put it down. He had cancer in other parts of his body as well. Secondly, lots of people are just unable to provide the high level of end of life care that an animal like that needs. Like, if you need to go to work every day, you just can’t be there to carry your dog every where they need to go, and make sure they don’t hurt themselves. There’s no social security for pets, they haven’t worked hard and saved up for their end of life care. The vast majority of pet-owners can’t afford indefinite high level care. Every day you own a pet, you are making decisions on their behalf. Yes they can’t choose euthanasia themselves, and you have to make that decision as their guardian. Ask yourself, what would this creature choose to do if they could reason and if they were aware of the relevant considerations. Obviously that’s not an easy decision. I haven’t had a pet for the last 15 years because I don’t want to have to make this kind of decision.
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@sorrybookbroke@sh.itjust.works 2025-12-11 09:28
I see a lot of good reasoning here but I can’t get over the fact that I wouldn’t choose the same for myself. If I can’t see myself choosing death why force it on my friend? I have never judged someone for choosing to kill their pet who is in a terrible condition dommed to get worse however. I just can’t do what I wouldn’t want done to me.
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@IWW4@lemmy.zip 2025-12-11 12:31
It is a necessary evil and a shame we do not do it to humans. My last dog was a member of my family for 12 years. He was my other son and the joy he brought my family was without measure. In his 11th year he blew out his ACL and three months later I/the vet discovered that he had developed bone cancer. I was not going to subject him too either of those treatments. So he got two shots, I lied on the floor of the vets office and cried my eyes out as he quietly slipped away. Until those meds started to take effect he was living a life of pain and that ended it. My father is 94 years old. He has three PHDs and had a towering intellect and I have shelf of books that he has written to prove it. Now his corpse is walking around trying to shit and piss his pants. Not too long ago, with no prep, he could lecture for three hours on a subject. Now he can’t order a lunch sandwich without getting lost in the subject matter and worse he FUCKING knows it. It is just so miserable to watch. He is not going to get better. It is time.
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@brygphilomena@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2025-12-11 13:26
I’ve known pets that had lost their owners and just stopped eating. They got super depressed, lost the will to go on, and let themselves slip away. I had to put my dog down a few years ago. He was in late stages of kidney failure. He probably wasn’t going to live more than a few more days anyway. I spent the entire day with him, gave him everything he could want. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Even thinking about him years later still brings me to major tears.
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@nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2025-12-11 14:51
i know an independent cat rescue that will take injured animals and never euthanize due to buddhist principals. you would not believe the depth of suffering i have seen.
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@BobQuasit@beehaw.org 2025-12-11 18:33
It’s hard as hell, but for me it comes down to this: we have to decide if they’re suffering so much that death would be a relief for them. Since we don’t have a common language, all we can do is go by what other signs and indicators are available. I don’t entirely trust veterinarians to make that decision, because in the past it has seemed to me that they tend to err on the side of euthanasia. I’ve done it both ways. Either way, it hurts.
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@JoYo@lemmy.ml 2025-12-11 19:40
I waited too long for my little lady, she didn’t need to suffer as long as she did. It sucks either way.
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@socsa@piefed.social 2025-12-11 21:40
I waited too long and regret it every single day. Every single day. He could have fallen asleep in my lap after a entire day of treats, cuddles and hanging out. Instead he had a seizure and hit his head and died whining in agony on the ride to the emergency vet at 3 in the morning. Every memory I have of him, over the span of 16 wonderful years now exists alongside this extremely traumatic experience.
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@CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 2025-12-12 02:38
Dying naturally tends to be an excruciatingly painful and slow process. eating, drinking water, moving out of the way of danger, etc. Not eating and drinking is a definite thing.