Post #479095

2026-03-01 17:38 UTC

Okay. So I have a parent of a blind child now in her freshman year of college on my fb page. Mommy shipped her kid off to Florida school for deaf and blind when she was 11 because she was being bullied. So mommy posts about how she’s driving from where she lives in west palm beach to Jacksonville where daughter is in college to clip her toenails and take her grocery shopping. Ps. That’s a long ass drive. So someone on her page is all. Oh those poor blind people who can’t clip their nails. So I having clipped my nails for as long as I can remember felt the need stupidly to be all. Blind people do clip their own nails including toenails. So now mommy is messaging me because daughter can’t clip her nails, tie her shoes, or do up her bra clips. Do the blind schools teach nothing? Next I really want to encourage mommy to send daughter for skills training. But I also feel like I shouldn’t get involved. But these are things everyone needs to know how to do and mommy won’t be around for forever and that’s wrong to assume siblings will help her.

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@amy0223@mindly.social 2026-03-01 17:42

This, y’all, is why Amy does not teach living skills. I’d want to bitch slap every parent for intentionally choosing to not prepare their kid for living on their own. Also if you’re a girl and have no other disabilities and can’t clip your bra? When I got a training bra my mother showed me how to put it on. Meanwhile I know how to do it but it’s so automatic. You slide the pieces together. Sigh. Good grief! How in hell do I find these people?

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@Cam@mastodon.stickbear.me 2026-03-01 17:52

@amy0223 I know someone who's in that situation now. She's 40, still lives with her mommy, and the mother is a Total 1000% helicopter parent. Always up in her business, always telling her what she can and can't do. It's pathetic.

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@quanin@allovertheplace.ca 2026-03-01 18:18

@amy0223 I can't speak for you, but my parents taught me this shit. The blind school I went to for 4 years didn't care if I knew it or not. If this chick's daughter can't do that at her age, that's a parenting issue. Also, run. Run away. Run away quickly.

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@technocounselor@caneandable.social 2026-03-01 19:19

@amy0223 I think you can encourage without getting too personally involved, as these are really basic things that she should learn to do if she can.

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@LittleBird@chatmosphere.club 2026-03-01 20:45

@amy0223 My mom taught me to clip my nails. This mom can totally do this thing.

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@LittleBird@chatmosphere.club 2026-03-01 20:46

@amy0223 Unless the mom has her own physical disabilities and physically can't?

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@blindbat84@disabled.social 2026-03-01 21:00

@amy0223 This is just sad on so many levels.

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@pawpower@beige.party 2026-03-01 21:13

@amy0223 Does the student have other physical disabilities that prevent her from clipping her nails? I have hand spasticity and hypertonia in my legs, hips and feet that make it very hard for me to clip my toenails so they look even and nice. Since I enjoy wearing sandals it is important that my nails look neatly trimmed so I get a pedicure once a month to keep everything looking nice. So that could be an option. If there are no other disabilities present then absolutely she should be able to do it for herself and if she chooses not to then the mom can say something like ok then you need to work out a way to handle this yourself, you might think of getting a pedicure because these aren't anyone else's responsibility than yours. As for the groceries this is something the student should be doing. if there are other disabilities or life threatening food allergies then the student may consider something like instacart. The mother needs to establish some boundaries here. But skills training would also be a good idea. Because of my disabilities there are many things like clipping my nails or deep cleaning my house that I struggle to do, but that doesn't mean i expect others to do them for me without compensation. I pay for a cleaner and I pay for a pedicure because it is important to me that I be as independent as I can and the more tasks people do for me edit which they aren't compensated, the more they feel the have a right to an opinion about how I live my life.

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