Post #3184171

2026-05-13 17:46 UTC

Coming from the land of men’s clothing, you don’t start with the scarf. You don't have to jump into femme clothes like diving! In fact, I would suggest many of you emphatically do NOT jump into femme clothes. I couldn't, because I had too much internalized transphobia and felt like a gorilla shaped man in a dress. Take small steps, not huge leaps. Because what you're trying to do is build confidence and a bank of positive experiences. Going out on day one in a sundress can go badly, and when it does, it pushes you backwards. Start small. Where I started was… T-shirts! #TransFemmeClothing

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@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life 2026-05-13 17:51

The first thing I did was wear women's T-shirts. I changed nothing but what type of T-shirts I wear. I traded in my men's T-shirts for boring women's T-shirts. That's it. Same shoes, same jeans, same everything. Seems dumb? It's not. First of all, women's T-shirts are cut different. But they are also colored different and they feel different. And that last part was important to me–ESPECIALLY since I started this after starting estrogen. If you haven’t done HRT and are planning to… realize that your men’s clothes will straight up HURT on estrogen. They feel like wearing burlap and sandpaper. Women’s cloths are just… softer, lighter, thinner. They feel very different. And that slight difference was huge for my mental health. They made me feel more femme. And the best part: nobody noticed or cared that I was wearing a woman's T-shirt. But I did. #TransFemmeClothing

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