Post #1651563
2026-04-05 11:13 UTC
@lifewithtrees I’ve never had shame for using timers or other assistive technology, more a sense of relief it exists. I had lots of shame for seemingly never been able to meet people’s standards, they all ‘know time’ and I could never get it, and it was always my fault, some moral failing (hey, this is my family. Now I have calendar reminders and timers and it’s an effective ‘neurotypical mask’ 🙄
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@lifewithtrees@mstdn.social 2026-04-05 11:25
@aegir it sounds like, I’m learning in real time, internalized ableism. https://www.7cups.com/advice/article/recognizing-and-overcoming-internalized-ableism It mentions how it shows up in families here too. I have a parent who is a “should-er” for instance, who I think also shoulds themselves to “power through”