Post #1181197

2026-04-15 20:49 UTC

Dear cis guy on the bus who told me "we all love you" and "we're all here for you" after I was subjected to transmisogynist verbal abuse from a drunk guy: the sentiment is appreciated, I guess... but... like... You coulda "been there for me" while the abuse was happening rather than sitting there studiously avoiding eye contact with anyone. Just a thought.

Replies (6)

@Tattie@eldritch.cafe 2026-04-15 21:24

I mean it does seem churlish, this call out. Because it wasn't only this guy who said nothing at the time. There were another two men sitting there, wordlessly. But I deserved support. From one, any, all of them. Maybe the reason this guy said something eventually was because he wished he'd stepped in at the time. So. Maybe next time, my dude.

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@pauamma@mstdn.social 2026-04-15 20:56

@Tattie I hear you about the wish/need for quick(er) intervention. Are you OK?

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@LisaDiFalco1@mastodon.scot 2026-04-15 21:31

@Tattie Really sorry you had to deal with that. 🫂

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@polygonalhorse@goblin.camp 2026-04-15 23:28

@Tattie this energy

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@natasha@lgbtqia.space 2026-04-16 02:55

@Tattie men being men. Unfortunately since the blatant majority of them are aggressive, passive or both, we have the right of generalising. I'm happy you sorted out without major damage but fuck this sick society.

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@yakmacker@society.kalli.st 2026-04-16 20:39

@Tattie the only people I've seen call others out on the bus are skinny old aunties. Don't know what makes people who are supposed to be macho so inclined to just be bystanders when anything happens on public transit.

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