Post #1236379

2026-04-15 21:24 UTC

I mean it does seem churlish, this call out. Because it wasn't only this guy who said nothing at the time. There were another two men sitting there, wordlessly. But I deserved support. From one, any, all of them. Maybe the reason this guy said something eventually was because he wished he'd stepped in at the time. So. Maybe next time, my dude.

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@Tattie@eldritch.cafe 2026-04-15 22:06

I do think it's absurd, tho, how I got words like "wuss" thrown at me growing up, because I refused to participate in the boys' displays of masculinity. But now we're all grown, it's me, the trans woman, who always ends up intervening when there's asswipes being racist or misogynist or queerphobic or whatever. Putting my safety on the line. Then eventually, hopefully, my cis sisters step in in defense of me, making sure I'm ok. And cis guys? Studiously examining the ground in front of them. I feel that masculinity has been mis-sold to me. 🙃

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@greenWhale@dice.camp 2026-04-15 21:51

@Tattie I really hope he'll be there for real next time. More importantly, I hope you're ok. 💚

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@johan@social.terbeest.org 2026-04-15 22:18

@Tattie It’s better than nothing but not by much

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