Post #1088301
2026-04-11 18:55 UTC
Replies (7)
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@Tattie@eldritch.cafe 2026-04-11 18:55
I grew up into a world which enforced that line, hard, and I grew up knowing I was the wrong side of it. I didn't "Always Know I Was A Woman", I didn't play with girls' toys, I didn't want to marry a man. I was placed in the box marked "shameful"; the box of cis male fetishist crossdressers. I was still a child when I learnt that this was the box society had relegated me to. With a child's credulity, I accepted it. 2/
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@SecondUniverse@autistics.life 2026-04-11 19:33
@Tattie I remember the TS/TV divide of the eighties/nineties. I was one of the "good ones". It was all illegal so the two circles did overlap a bit for safety. On the TS side we had to meet very invasive criteria and we certainly had to avoid giving off a TV vibe. Sexuality had to be completely repressed. Full SRS was a legal requirement. The process took me away from any sense of authenticity and probably put another scoop of trauma in my head. The TS/TV archetypes did so much damage. I am sorry you were misdirected onto such a long and painful journey. I agree that people's private explorations shouldn't be used to attack anyone, even if they happen to be married to a reprehensible MAGA.
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@Nephrite@gamedev.lgbt 2026-04-11 21:14
@Tattie Tattie, what an amazing thread. Some of those parts must have been very personal, thanks for sharing! Another example of a trans person existing in a conservative space: me as a child. It was years after leaving my conservative church and becoming ever more leftist and progressive before I even found out trans people existed and (gasp) I was one!
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@wawagirl@mastodon.social 2026-04-11 23:04
@Tattie get eviller
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@nanook@friendica.eskimo.com 2026-04-12 07:13
@Tattie I don't have a general issue with trans people, but I do have a general problem with people who can't or refuse to use language properly, a phobia is a FEAR of something, it is NOT a dislike, they are two quite distinctly different emotional reactions.
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@SecondUniverse@autistics.life 2026-04-12 07:46
@Tattie "If we somehow ended transphobia tomorrow, we would find that the community of trans individuals have overnight become substantially more racist, sexist, ableist, homophobic, classist, fatphobic, etc etc etc" Indeed, think "Wes Streeting", but trans. The reality is that trans people are going to be mostly on the left, like many other LGBTQIA letters. You get gay MAGA, but not many. Regarding the trans community, the diversity in political outlook doesn't undermine the idea of a community, in my opinion. I think all communities are very diverse but somehow unified about a small set of issues. It might just be that an otherwise random group of people live in the same neighborhood, or they have a fetish for balloons, or they all have dyslexia - but they are still all random people outside of that one issue. The point is that one issue acts as a bridge between different people. There's a shared interest that cuts across the silos. In this case, you are making a qualified, dialectical defence of a trans MAGA person. That kind of generosity within a community is what can lead to a change in people's outlook.
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@2something@transfem.social 2026-04-12 15:26
@Tattie@eldritch.cafe I wonder if this attempt at sorting us into "good trans" and "bad trans" is a holdover from religion. In Abrahamic religions, some people believe that you can sort absolutely all humans in to "good people" who get into the world to come/heaven, and "bad people" who don't. When a celebrity does something bad, there are often people who say "but they've also done good things! By mentioning that they've done something bad you're trying to erase the good things they've done so you can call them a bad person!" In reality, someone who has done good things and bad things is a person who has done both good and bad things.