Post #814368

2026-03-27 10:29 UTC

Cis people sometimes demand #trans people rigourously define what "gender" means and explain what drives us to embody a gender other than the one assigned to us at birth. If we can't do that, they say, how can they believe us? But trans people shouldn't have to be philosophers and psychologists all wrapped up into one to have our experiences believed. 1/

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@crazyeddie@mastodon.social 2026-03-30 06:39

@Tattie@eldritch.cafe Sorry, I've only started to read but it seems to me right off that if there's anyone responsible for defining "gender" it would be the ones who insist we rigorously abide by whatever the fuck it is. It's literally not on you. Seriously, would you care enough what gender you are to call yourself "trans" if nobody gave a fuck what "gender" is? Be who the fuck you are, who cares? Except these people demanding YOU define it??? OK, I'll finish...

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@Tattie@eldritch.cafe 2026-03-27 10:36

Truth is I don't know. Gender seems a complicated, vague concept to me, and I don't know why I feel the need to be a woman. It wasn't intentional. I never experienced any great internal revelation or certainty. Nonetheless, evidentially, I am happier and more well-balanced as a woman. Even despite the transphobia I experience. 2/

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@goatsarah@thegoatery.dyndns.org 2026-03-27 11:15

@Tattie “I’m a girl” “Why?” “Because”

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@RuthODay2@chaosfem.tw 2026-03-27 11:51

@Tattie Thank you for expressing this, it describes (more clearly than I could) a lot of my own experiences.. #BoostFaveBookmarkTrifecta

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@JessTheUnstill@infosec.exchange 2026-03-27 12:43

@Tattie I think even more fundamentally - there's been entire books and a million blogs of personal narratives, lots of them. Medical research studies, medical associations, entire international interdisciplinary organizations of people who are the world experts in gender diversity. They all say trans people are real, valid, and who they say they are. If someone isn't willing to accept those piles of evidence, then challenging an individual trans person is just hunting for some gotcha.

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@burnoutqueen@todon.nl 2026-03-27 12:54

@Tattie I'm happier as a girl and the evidence suggests it has to do with my brain but that's all I can conclusively say

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@forestine@sunny.garden 2026-03-27 13:30

@Tattie also a cis person who has never interrogated their gender will get real defensive if you try and flip the question on them. they'll say "i just am" or something

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