Post #769715

Being a (nonbinary) trans guy is fucking weird in this society. I experience all of the shit that cis women experience under the patriarchy and more, but at the same time my gender is similar to that of the assholes who are doing that and holding power and profiting under the patriarchy. It’s so easy to internalize the TERF narrative that me being a trans guy makes me a traitor to women, and the narrative that being oppressed under the patriarchy makes me a woman wether i like it or not. When in reality being trans is making me more marginalized, not less. It really feels bizarre when that idea of “feminism” (and it’s not just TERFs, this goes much deeper) joins forces with the patriarchy to try to force me “back” into womanhood. It’s easy to frame this as coming only from other feminists, but it’s more than anything coming from myself. Every time I experience sexism, every time I experience sexual harassment, I end up hating an aspect of myself (the part of my gender that is male-ish). And every time sexist shit is done to me it also is a way to try to take away my gender, for cis male assholes to tell me “you are a woman, wether you like it or not. Being on the receiving end of this makes you a woman”. Or to say it (what society wants me to internalize) like this: “To be a man makes you the same as a perpetrator and to be a victim makes you a woman. So you are at fault for your own oppression.”