Post #495316

2026-03-02 19:17 UTC

People who have never had to rent as an adult will never understand the privileges of homeownership. And it&#39;s a fucking problem. Let&#39;s discuss. Everything below represents a stressor that renters have that homeowners just don&#39;t. I have a 15 day grace period to pay the mortgage. That means less stress getting the payment in on time. I cannot stress enough how relieving that is. I can just fix stuff myself if I want to. If I hate my faucet, I can just replace it with one that&#39;s high enough - too many never renters do not understand how shitty kitchen faucets are in most apartments. They are chosen for price and not utility. This is an often unrecognized stressor. It&#39;s harder to watch dishes when your faucet is too low. I can buy stuff in bulk because I have a place to store shit. Buying bulk is cheaper. I don&#39;t have to think about how many rolls of toilet paper I have left nearly as often. I have enough space to work on loud or messy projects. You can&#39;t build a workshop in an apartment. I never have to worry about someone buying my home and forcing me to find alternative lodging. The relief from this is palpable - this is such a huge and often invisible stressor. It&#39;s an elephant sized stressor. Moving is expensive. I can have multiple pets, and specifically more than two. My pets are not restricted by weight or breed.

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@CorvidCrone@kolektiva.social 2026-03-02 23:14

None of these stressors can be "therapy-ed" or medicated away either. There is no mental health resource that currently exists that will alleviate these stressors. Stress has a physical effect on the body. The housing crisis is a mental health crisis is a physical health crisis. Lack of systemic protections for renters is making people unwell. And the capitalist class has done this on purpose. To keep a significant portion of the labor pool exhausted and afraid so they can demand more and more. This is not ok

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@angelteeth@kolektiva.social 2026-03-02 20:24

@CorvidCrone so real. I'm in my 40's and will never own a home. The cultural expectation that someone my age is "self-sufficient," and the psychological boost of being in control (more or less) of one's own living situation, are things I will always fall short of, and I think we don't talk enough about that as part of this culture's lack of meaningful ways to transition from youth to adulthood - a marker that is actually very important for a human being's development and sense of broader belonging.

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@notyourfanboy@kolektiva.social 2026-03-03 01:27

@CorvidCrone > People who have never had to rent as an adult ... That's got to be a very small number of people

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@Bartok@kolektiva.social 2026-03-03 12:42

@CorvidCrone I bought my apartment at age 46 having never owned before. I hate it. Don't get me started, I have a dental appointment in a couple of hours. I am lucky, though, I have a roof over my head and regular heat, and studio apartments go for $1300 in my crappy neighborhood. Owning isn't for everyone. Rents, though--we all know this, but there's something seriously, seriously wrong with this country.

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