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2026-07-05 08:02 UTC

@pinkberet@transfem.social I had a similar experience when I first came out. I went to a support group and noticed I was the only one there with short hair, no makeup, wearing a mix of womens and mens clothes. I felt really out of place. They were really nice to me though and they understood I just started transitioning but the girls I met there looked so pretty and well put together and I've always been a perpetual hot mess.

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@gwenthefops@transfem.social 2026-07-05 08:08

@ReignOfRaining@transfem.social @pinkberet@transfem.social I feel like that's a mix of selection bias (if I was going to I've of those I would dress myself up more than usual), a dash of "we all go through the teenage phase of not knowing how to dress ourselves" and the fact that, as a general rule, when you look at others, you see what's there, but when you look at yourself, you see what's missing. I've received plenty of compliments for outfits and things that I felt were ok at best, because I knew what I was going for and how I fell short, while others just saw the end product. And I'm sure I gave several compliments in a similar situation as well

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