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@FknHannu@zeroes.ca
Post #3863027
2026-07-16 15:57 UTC
💠 What does this look like?
▫️ I write out or in my head will say the thoughts and take a step back and evaluate them.
-- As an introvert, I have time to do this typically. Less so in person of course.
I apply as best I can an advisory evaluation of the response, and decide of the benefits outweigh the costs/risks. ▫️ ▫️ Costs of this self-advisory process are also evaluated, and if comfortable enough, I can bypass it entirely and just let those loose associations, quips, and rejoinders rip.
💠 Example?
▫️ Colleague: "Wow you have all the call days on Fridays."
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▫️ Advisory Comments: "That Granary can ship mate, we know this person and trust them to understand where you're coming from" , or "Yo, you're about to be completely misunderstood and paranoid the rest of the day that you were weird or offputting, let it go but hey that was funny"
💠 Summary Statement:
And so this is my way of long-form writing out my neurodivergent strategies in social situations, the amount of WORK that goes into them, and why I am exhausted by the end of the day.
But hey, I've stayed out of being misunderstood, mitigated rejection sensitivity dysphoria, & kept a job in this capitalist hole we call Earth 2026, so there's that.
Thanks for coming to my Ted Talk on #neurodivergent #SocialStrategies #ADHD
Replies (3)
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@FknHannu@zeroes.ca The worst is when the inner monologue and advisory commentator start arguing due to conflicting priorities while the other person gets frustrated from waiting for a simple response.
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Yeah I probably have autism too but hey, never diagnosed and I can hold a conversation and job, so I cant be, right? Right?
/s
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@FknHannu@zeroes.ca
That's all very familiar. Because of my professional background, I think of it as having to do in software what neurotypical people do in hardware. We're cognitively running rings round the other people in the room while they're standing there and faintly wondering what's wrong with us.
It's no wonder our CPUs run hot — that social interaction is exhausting (even if we find it stimulating and enjoyable) and we need time to recover afterwards.
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