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The problem I have with this theory is it's a closed loop ontologically. You say you literally assume that if a man is criticising gay people, he must BE gay (or trans) himself...you are then implicitly saying that "gay people are doing all the bigotry to themselves!" It is not true. Most of our foes are quite happily heterosexual. That they may have some insecurities that lead them to cruelty, doesn't make them automatically gay. What you're seeing is called "confirmation bias". When you hear a story about some right wing 'phobe who ends up caught bein' gay, that's going to make the news, yeah? And you'll notice it, because it confirms your existing belief, rather than challenging it. But you know what doesn't make the news: "old straight white man who hated queers all his life turns out to be actually straight when he died and we read his diary." It's not titillating. It's just ordinary street-level bigotry. So not on the news. When the vast majority of preachers who cheat do that cheating, they are not sleeping with men. Again, doesn't make the news. "Straight man sleeps with woman, film at 11." Not going to make the cut, is it? So this idea does far more harm to our community than good; it takes cis het people off the hook entirely, because now you can, conveniently, write it off to just gay people being mad at one another. And then the bigots get to keep on being bigots, because you don't want to believe they exist, let alone that, as expected, they are the vast majority of the bigots. I speak here from 34 years as an activist for and in the queer community. Most of the bigots I have met were in no manner secretly gay. They were just hateful people, who get to be small-minded because being a white cishet Christian in North America is "playing on kiddy mode", and so never needed to learn to expand their mind or learn new views, because the current setup suits them like it was made for them. Which, funny thing... (not saying no 'phobe is gay, either!)