Post #3678863

2026-07-08 19:21 UTC

well, haven't thought about my afghan ex-friends in like 6 months. I think I will make a pot of chawwal and cry into it. Also, I don't know exactly what they put on that lamb they grilled for eid ul adha, but that was fire. there's a certain special sadness that comes from leaving islam, that does not easily fit into a box. It is not just that you feel tricked and lied to and you leave and that's it. It's not just the betrayal. It is also the thing where being muslim causes you to lose all or most non-muslim friends, and then leaving islam AT BEST results in being shunned and forgotten by the entire community while they deny doing it, and eventually deny ever having known you to begin with. It's not that I didn't see it coming. I was actually scared for my life. It's that I saw the good in them, and then they destroyed that connection. That has a certain special sting to it. And even reaching a high level of understanding of the religion did not prepare me for the abrupt cut-off.

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@technicallydifficult@brain.worm.pink 2026-07-08 21:41

It is worthy of note that I'm significantly happier without that religion. This excerpt is a good example of how restrictive the religion is. In context (which is omitted in the excerpt) it's about not making booze. But the abundance of caution combined with general lack of general education among the ulema results in explanations of "this is vaguely bad for you" but the reason it's forbidden is actually because grapes have yeast on them and mixing these two makes khamr instead of nabidh. Anyways, there are thousands of nonsensical "because someone with a funny hat said so" fiqh like this. Rules about how to keep the jinns from falling in love with you while you bathe, or how to avoid angering them, or other absolute bullshit about the extreme danger of letting your pants cover your ankles because of it being a symbol of extreme arrogance and hypocrisy.

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