Post #3421821
2026-06-27 05:16 UTC
Replies (3)
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@syhr@mastodon.art 2026-06-27 05:18
@hollie@social.coop
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@nuintari@mastodon.bsd.cafe 2026-06-27 16:10
@hollie@social.coop I started going to infosec/hacker conventions in the early 2000s. The first one, I wasn't out yet. The next one, I wore some pretty loud earrings, and some _very_ tight pants. People kept complementing my outfit. The next one, I was fully out. High heels, low cut blouses, push up bras, full on makeup. How I _really_ wanted to be dressed. No one gave a shit, except to occasionally compliment my fashion choices. Especially my shoes, people loved my shoes. Or they were asking me how I had managed to stay walking in them after six, eight, ten hours. (It wasn't easy, but the things one does in the name of being oneself!) The infosec/hacker community showed me the acceptance to be myself that I desperately needed at that time in my life. In the years since, many friends and even some complete strangers have told me that I was part of their inspiration, their courage to finally come out themselves. Attached, me and.... forget her name at Derbycon, 2016 I think. Love this outfit, still have those heels!
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@t54r4n1@mspsocial.net 2026-06-27 05:48
@hollie@social.coop so one of the things about being nonbinary is you come out every time you meet someone and again and again to a lot of the same people I was at the insurance agency and they went to go get some whatever and referred to me with some bullshit in the hallway and I hollered after Jim "I take they/them pronouns!!" and Jim and the boss peeked back around the corner "okay thanks for telling us!" and Jim and the boss have been cool since.