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2026-05-13 18:07 UTC

This is what I now affectionately call The Plausibly Deniable Femme Uniform, after another, more experienced, Trans woman saw me in it and said that I wasn't branching out and was only wearing clothes that were "plausibly deniable." But that's the thing, there was a power in that I desperately needed. The ability to wear actual women's clothing, and not fall on my face. I didn't have to wear a skirt, I didn't have a flowered shirt. I had basically the same clothes as before, just girl style. The Plausably Deniable Femme Uniform allowed me to do two things: Wear women's clothing everyday and start to crawl out of my dysphoria shell Experiment with other directions safely, while having a solid and safe base to work on. For instance… shoes!! #TransFemmeClothing

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@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life 2026-05-13 18:07

Wearing just jeans and a t-shirt, I was comfortable, I was safe, I was femme but not dangerously femme. Then I started looking at shoes. Well, I published a whole-ass essay about women's shoes, but suffice it to say… Sorry babe, it's back to the gates of hell for you. Same deal as pants. Women told me how they will try on 20 pairs of shoes, all in the same size, and maybe find one that fits. It's a nightmare. Made worse by T, which gives you huge women's sizes. Women's shoe sizes are basically 2 US/UK numbers above men's sizes. There are dozens of conversion tables out there. Get familiar. Measure your feet by putting your heel against a wall on a piece of paper and holding a narrow pen at your big toe. Get the size in centimeters and look it up. Then realize that, unless you're really lucky, you will never see this size in a women's shoe department. Gates. Of. Hell. #TransFemmeClothing

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