Post #3184169

2026-05-13 17:43 UTC

4 years ago, I was still trying to convince myself I was not Trans. A year and a half later, I met a newly out Trans woman at Target wearing a skirt and ballet flats. Today, I’m seen as the high femme woman in my office who always dresses classy and stylish. That didn't happen all at once. There was a progression I made that I thought might be helpful… And there are certain places I've found clothes. (Follow the thread for more details, Now with Links!) Most of all, there was…time. You don’t get to your style (whatever that is), by just picking a style and doing it. You pick it by trying things, trying them again, and making mistakes. #TransFemmeClothing

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@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life 2026-05-13 17:45

If you're trying to get used to femme clothing, you need to go out of your house and engage with people wearing them. You need to be out while saying “Yeah, this outfit doesn’t work.” You need experience with that feeling. You need to know what feels good, what works, what doesn’t work, and most of all you need to understand that IT WILL BE OKAY. This takes practice. So, how do you do that? You start small. You make one tiny change at a time. You have a look, you have clothes, that are comfortable to you, and you make one small change to that look and see how that change feels. An example of this is my current style, which people have called “French-looking” and “50s starlet.” I got this look by changing a single thing: I started wearing a scarf. That’s all. One small thing. Of course, by then, I had already grown comfortable with my skirts, my low-cut tops, my makeup, my dangly earrings, etc. #TransFemmeClothing

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