Post #3108106
2026-04-02 13:53 UTC
@JamesDBartlett3@techhub.social I think the ick some from the phrasing of "choosing" one's pronouns. I think in English there is a bundle of meanings implying strong preferences, dysphoria if those preferences aren't followed, and a meaningful amount of introspection.
Even "suggested" feels a lot less icky.
I also have to deal with people (thankfully almost never in person) who see my husband's identity is as arbitrary and artificial as what clothes you put on on a given day.
So personally I don't want to conflate an LLM making a suggestion with people's deep and meaningful identities.
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@JamesDBartlett3@techhub.social 2026-04-02 14:03
@Sqlgene@techhub.social Very good points. I think the reason I didn't use "suggested" is because that implies that I actually chose Cray's pronouns based on their suggestion, which is not how it happened. I'm happy to change the wording to something else, as long as it doesn't distort the truth. Would "picked" or "selected" be any better? Edit: or how about "generated"? That's actually the literal truth.