Post #2900360

2026-05-15 14:46 UTC

Misgendering? That’s bread and butter for Black women, for Pacific Islander women. To treat it as if it’s an absolute moral failure when it happens to a white trans femme ignores the racial hegemony of the system. “I should never be misgendered” is a less effective statement if you never process whiteness because it’s whiteness that is effecting you in that moment. So often I see people map white trans femininity (or, rather, their rejectionist attitudes towards it) onto PoC trans women, as if our experiences are analogous. We neve had a chance to fit in to this society, so we come to trans femininity already de-centered. Living in a Black male experience was one where we were centered only as a threat or an other. At best, I was “exotic,” and fetishized. It’s simply a different experience. In a way, armored and prepared for othering.

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@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life 2026-05-15 17:37

Another frustrating thing about this is the argument of “socialized male” so often comes with examples as proof that you are not a real woman. Like playing chess? Not a woman. Like sports? Not a woman. Like woodworking? Not a woman. Like building things in the yard? Not a woman. Like painting? Not a woman. Like cabinetry? Not a woman. Like cooking? Well you would be a woman but you cook complex things so not a woman.

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@LunaDragofelis@void.lgbt 2026-05-15 15:12

@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life My opinion (as a black trans woman) is that no trans person, regardless of race, deserves to be misgendered, ever. Racism unfortunately makes Black trans women more likely than white trans women to get misgendered and treated as a male threat, and it makes me dysphoric.

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@JoscelynTransient@chaosfem.tw 2026-05-15 16:15

@FinalGirl@blackqueer.life when the thread about this was popping off the other day and I was too mentally fatigued to form decent sentences, this was exactly one of the things I wanted to bring up about why we need to talk about socialization not as some property of a person but as processes of power flowing through relations, and why we should instead consider what question a person is really talking about when they bring up “male socialization” of trans women. Because like you said, to grow up being perceived as a Black boy or man is a very very different experience than growing up as a white boy or man, and there is a HUGE assumption there about what male socialization means as being about hegemonic masculinity.

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