Post #2671630
2026-01-14 21:08 UTC
Replies (4)
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@Fredthefishlord@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2026-01-14 21:13
Ok but like. Dating and flirting talk is different from normal talk. More giggly, more vibes. Some people can't do that for shit
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@boonhet@sopuli.xyz 2026-01-15 07:15
Talking to women and talking to women you want to date are slightly different things tbh. The latter doesn't necessarily come naturally for all. And online, it gets even harder oftentimes. Creating a captivating conversation out of an empty bio, two generic photos and a name? That's still damn difficult for me and I've been on tinder for like 4 years out of the last 8. Obviously it's easier if the conversational partner throws you a bone. OOP didn't exactly have a great opener to begin with and then was given a "tyyy". Try riffing on that. Good luck. I can see why OOP gave up on the conversation. Online "dating" sucks. I'm sure women have their own reasons why it sucks (safety in particular), but for men it sucks because generally speaking, you're expected to prove yourself as an interesting conversational partner within 2-3 messages. Even on Bumble it's the same, as seen in the screenshot. Women have to write first there, but usually it's just "hi" or an emoji. So I also don't know how to talk to women. I have female friends. I'm not an incel, I've had a couple of long-term relationships and some, eh, situationships I guess? Even some with people I met on dating apps. Meet me in person? We're staying awake talking until 5 AM. Actually give me something to riff about in your bio or at least reply to me with more than one word? We're at the very least going to have a fun conversation, maybe meet in real life. But give me an empty bio and one word replies? I'm sorry, but I just don't know how to talk to you.
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@nialv7@lemmy.world 2026-01-14 21:22
I don't know how to talk to another person either.
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@WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2026-01-15 05:07
I did, end result was someone actually contacts me for a date, but I just...don't feel anything, so I just end up talking to hear her life story, and nothing actually happens. I will be single for life 🥲 But that's ok! I don't want to drag anyone into a relationship with a miserable person who does not want to live anyway (hence, relationships are last place).