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I find that to be a very interesting question. In some ways, for some things, yes, in other ways, for other things, no. Compare a baby screaming because it is hungry to a person who consistently finds themselves in abusive relationships. They’re both outwardly signalling something. The baby is arguably barely conscious, but you as an outside observer are probably pretty sure that it either is hungry, needs to poop, is too cold or hot, etc. The serially unlucky at love person… might actually actively, persuasively deny their current status, maybe even their past. But an outside observer might be able to more easily see that they have just a very fundamental kind of low self esteem, lack of sufficient respect for themselves, on a level that the abused lover really just is not aware of, hasn’t really ever concieved of. I’d argue that the abused lover has significantly more complex of an inner universe than the baby… but both of them might be approximately equally unaware of the signals they are sending, why they are sending them. So… to your question… yes, but also no, but also it can be quite complicated.