Post #26509
2025-12-03 13:19 UTC
Replies (40)
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@DScratch@sh.itjust.works 2025-12-03 13:28
I’m nearly 40 and the world they are facing is so different to what I experienced that I don’t know if any advice I could give would even make sense. Don’t suffer fools, I guess. Life is too short to put up with people who don’t, won’t or can’t respect you. You don’t have to make it a big deal, in fact that might be the wrong move if you’re dealing with a narcissist. Instead become uninteresting when interacting with them. The Grey Rock technique.
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@Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 2025-12-03 13:32
Take excellent care of your teeth. Whatever you need to do to accomplish this, DO IT. It’s thousands and thousands of dollars later if you don’t. I can’t stress this enough. Also, work in some strength training. Once your joints start to inflamed and hurt all the time, you will wish you had done this. I know because I do. Your night vision will start to degrade after age 40 or so. Prepare yourself. Sitting at a desk all day causes cumulative damage. Standing desks, yoga, little desk treadmills, ergo keyboards and mice: all these things may sound silly when your body can handle it. But the damage is CUMULATIVE. Do the “silly” things now, and slow the accumulation the hell down!
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@UncleArthur@lemmy.world 2025-12-03 13:40
After 60+ years I don’t offer generic unsolicited advice any more (I learned that lesson) but if I were going to break that rule, I’d suggest you read books. Actually read them too, don’t rely on audio books, and read as widely as you can. Sci-fi, mystery, romance, historical, non-fiction, just try to read a book a month. To lose yourself in a book is one of the great ways to maintain mental health. Also, don’t offer unsolicited advice.
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@frisbird@lemmy.ml 2025-12-03 13:52
Everyone needs to do exercise with resistance (weights, bands, bodyweight). You will not get too muscular by accident. It will prevent aches and pains, it will prevent injuries, it will make it more likely you survive car accidents and false. Everyone needs to floss, there are no exceptions. Everyone needs time outside in nature. If you live in a city, get to a park every week, preferably every day. It changes our brain chemistry. We aren’t organized to live in boxes all day. Learn how to breathe. If you think that sounds silly, you’re the example. Learn to cook. When you can’t contribute anything else, being able to contribute food is universally accepted
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@Know_not_Scotty_does@lemmy.world 2025-12-03 13:58
If you work with tools or equipment in any fashion, use proper personal protective equipment and don’t skip it. If you work around loud noises, use real hearing protection. Hearing loss is irreversible and cumulative. If you work with anything that makes dust or fumes, get a resparator. You can get nasty allergies from sawdust, griding dust gives you lung cancer and a bunch of other horrible shit. If you work with chemicals, use gloves or whatever is required per the sds. Always wear eye protection, you can’t get new eyes. Take care of your skin, if you weld, wear real covers. Skin cancer on welders is a real thing. Use gloves where safe, and don’t where you are using rotating equipment, degloving is a thing. Equipment can’t tell the difference between flesh and workpieces and it doesn’t care.
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@JohnnyEnzyme@piefed.social 2025-12-03 14:01
Older people (30+) LOLolol…
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@Lumidaub@feddit.org 2025-12-03 14:14
Do not assume older people have anything at all figured out
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@Trent@lemmy.ml 2025-12-03 14:22
Never stop learning.
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@bridgeenjoyer__dup_8898@sh.itjust.works 2025-12-03 14:38
Take out the clankers, brush your teeth daily
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@Today@lemmy.world 2025-12-03 14:40
Take better care of your knees and back.
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@borokov@lemmy.world 2025-12-03 15:04
School is the only place where we don’t expect you to be productive. It’s the only place where people spend time and money only for you, without expecting something in return. It’s the only place where we want you to think by yourself and not just be a workforce on a product line. Think about this next time you’ll learn that mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.
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@PolandIsAStateOfMind@lemmy.ml 2025-12-03 15:06
Older people (30+)
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@UncleArthur@lemmy.world 2025-12-03 15:23
What bunkyprewster said.
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@HubertManne__dup_8041@piefed.social 2025-12-03 15:39
Not bad although the way things are I would say don’t have kids unless your wealth can support it. Also the more you save the less you will need to know your stuff down to the penny. Personally I would say be careful about getting into an investor mindset which can lead you to things that are more like gambling and realize often times its about not losing money.
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@wampus@lemmy.ca 2025-12-03 15:42
Put effort into finding someone as a romantic / life long partner while you’re young. Be critical and aggressive in the search (ie. don’t just “be open and let things happen if they happen!”). Most of the systems and life goals of society are tied to having two people or more in the family unit. Ideally aim for a partner that has similar economic outcomes as yourself, or at least positive ones overall, and who’s personality is tolerable / you can see yourselves staying friends indefinitely. If you’re a reclusive sort, find someone else who also values their space but is still willing to comingle finances/lives. Doing this young is important as there are more options and it’ll generally be easier to find people that ‘fit’ with your lifestyle. Finding someone close to you in age also helps to keep your life-events (such as whether to have kids, when to retire, etc) better aligned. Everything from paying off mortgage debt, to income tax breaks, to even just having a secondary “fail safe” income stream from your partner, are really significant. Heck, with the right partner you even cut down the costs of things like Groceries (can buy in bulk = savings), chore-times, etc. The younger you get that leverage, the better the results later on. Consider something like the time crunch many adults feel, between work, chores, sleeping, etc. If you have a solid partner, you can do something like alternate chores and workouts, so that you both maintain better overall health as you age. Eg. one partner does a workout while the other buys groceries/cooks, then the first partner does the cleanup and some light cleaning around the house while the other hits the gym. Having that sort of balance in your 20s / early 30s, will give you a better chance of maintaining your health into your 40s and 50s. There’re good reasons why single people die younger.
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@hobata@lemmy.ml 2025-12-03 16:01
Don’t chase after women and buses.
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@ryathal@sh.itjust.works 2025-12-03 16:37
If you want kids there’s a few things to consider. Graduate highschool then get married before kids. Kids are physically easier when you’re younger. No one is ever really ready for kids, but you should have some level of financial stability and be prepared to have significantly less freedom. Be purposeful in what you spend money on. You don’t need the best of everything, especially when starting a new hobby. You can find someone spending absurd amounts on anything, but no one can do that on everything.
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@notsosure@sh.itjust.works 2025-12-03 16:59
Never stop learning and get educated. Take responsibility for yourself, your health, your finances. Don’t do drugs.
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@FatVegan@leminal.space 2025-12-03 17:07
Watch your health. Most of my friends have just accepted that they get fat when they get older. Just don’t
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@agent_nycto@lemmy.world 2025-12-03 21:28
If you want to make friends, go to events for a thing you like. You’ll already have something to talk about. When you talk to people ask them about themselves instead of trying to get them to think you’re cool. Most of my huge friend circle is because I would go to anime cons and talk to randos. I was interested in other people and asked about stuff in their life.
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@FritzApollo@lemmy.today 2025-12-03 21:48
Life is hard and stressful whether you’re kind or unkind, so be kind. I don’t mean be a doormat, but don’t be a dick.
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@capuccino@lemmy.world 2025-12-03 22:45
I’m 29yo, come on, advise me!!!1! WE STILL HAVE TIME!!!
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@Pulptastic@midwest.social 2025-12-03 23:54
Start exercise today. Younger folks gain strength and speed much easier than old people. Lack of physical capability kills the elderly, so the more strength and stamina you start with and work to maintain, the longer you will be mobile. Do cardio and strength exercises. Endurance should be at least 80% of your cardio, that means slow. Brisk walks or slow jogs. For strength training focus on big hinge movements like squats. Start out small, body weight exercises, and go from there. Get some time with a trainer to check your form.
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@RiverRock@lemmy.ml 2025-12-04 00:10
Don’t confuse someone always being around with friendship. Some people won’t hesitate to drop a dime on you at the first sign of trouble
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@QuarterSwede@lemmy.world 2025-12-04 02:07
Don’t waste your time on stuff. Waste it on experiences and spending time with people. Relationships are the most important thing. You won’t regret that and it will make your life richer and more fulfilled. Stuff won’t do that.
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@mukt@lemmy.ml 2025-12-04 02:37
… Your teenage and young adolescent years, are better spent figuring out who you are and what you want to achieve… Spending two decades of your prime on that sounds insane. Can you be thrifty about this?
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@Amanda527@lemmy.world 2025-12-04 02:43
30+ here. Drink more water, wear sunscreen, take photos of your friends, and don’t marry someone just because the Wi-Fi is shared
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@sploder@lemmy.world 2025-12-04 02:53
Wear the fucking retainer after braces come off.
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@moonshadow@slrpnk.net 2025-12-04 03:02
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change Courage to change the things I can And wisdom to know the difference Alternatively, “don’t worry be happy”. There’s a lot to be upset about, but if it doesn’t make things better what’s the point? Extend your sense of self as widely as you can, and try to be patient and kind with the oneness you are a tiny part of. It is so easy to get caught up in empty struggle for struggle’s sake. Always act for love, never from fear. Move towards what you want rather than just away from what you don’t. And no matter who you are, know that I love you and want you to be happy :)
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@richieadler@lemmy.myserv.one 2025-12-04 03:03
I’d just say Do not get kids, period.
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@Brosplosion@lemmy.zip 2025-12-04 03:08
Don’t compare yourself to others, compare yourself to your own past performance.
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@undrwater@lemmy.world 2025-12-04 03:08
Touch grass.
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@Ryanmiller70@lemmy.zip 2025-12-04 03:10
Take care of your teeth!! I get it can be hard to do so if you’re depressed cause I’ve been there. I’ve lost a couple molars cause of it. It’s expensive and sucks. At least try your best to do it once a week if you struggle.
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@electric_nan@lemmy.ml 2025-12-04 03:14
Advice that older people give you is just them looking at their own regrets. You may not have the same ones, so take it with a grain of salt. You have your one life to live so do whatever you want.
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@Underwaterbob@sh.itjust.works 2025-12-04 03:14
Start exercising. Now. Doesn’t matter how old you are. Find the time. Doesn’t have to be a full blown gym habit, just consistent, makes-you-sweat exercise. It will never be easier to get in the habit.
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@Zannsolo@lemmy.world 2025-12-04 03:24
Know your financials, income and outflow. Use a credit card for everything but pay it off every month don’t over spend. Unless you have a full ride scholarship do your general education at a community college. If you don’t want to go to school join a trade union apprenticeship program. Talk to your local unions while you’re still in highschool so you can be prepared for the process. IMO electrician > plumber/pipefitter > HVAC > the rest. Carpenter might be above HVAC but I didn’t really talk with any of them. I got hurt in my final year of my plumbing apprenticeship, I did graduate and become a journeyman plumber but left the field shortly after graduation to avoid back surgery. I’m a software engineer now. Wait for kids. Learn to cook. Exercise. Work hard. Read. No nicotine, cocaine, opioids or other fiercely addictive substances. Everything else in moderation Don’t rush to have sex, but I’m def not advocating waiting till marriage. Didn’t settle in your relationships, just because you’ve been together a long time doesn’t mean it needs to be forever. I didn’t marry or give up my desire to not have kids with my 5.5 year relationship. Turns out I just didn’t want kids with her. Imeet my wife 3 years later married her after a year and intentionally had a kid the following year(more than 9 months after our wedding thank you very much)
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@Doomsider@lemmy.world 2025-12-04 05:42
My marriage is approaching 30 years now. A lot of this goes without saying or as some would say common sense. Only there is no common sense as it is too subjective of a term. Look at me, I am already digressing and I haven’t even started. Everything you know about life and love will change in your lifetime. Everything you have learned is a half truth. You sometimes find happiness when you can find the whole truth for yourself. This often means you may end up in conflict with culture, society, or even family. This is normal. If you love and care about yourself, you can truly love and care about someone else. Although there may be sacrifice in relationships, the factor that makes them work is how you build each other up. A marriage or any partnership should always be about helping each other achieve more. Be grateful for your life and everything you have and everyone you know everyday. Say it out loud, tell it to the people in your family, in your friendships, in your workplace, and most importantly in your close relationships. Not only is it important to say it, it is important to show it through your actions. A common trope is actions are louder than words. Both are actually important, although I do have a preference for people showing it because it validates what they say. Treat people how they want to be treated. This blows the golden rule out of the water. Don’t know how they want to be treated? This is normal. You ask them. Asking someone how they want to be treated and treating them that way is the surest way to gain respect. Unless you save you are not paying yourself anything. If you spend everything you make you are literally stealing from your future. Always save everything you can and invest it if you want it to grow. Think twice about purchases, especially if they are major. Being a little thrifty in life is way better than living paycheck to paycheck.
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@ptc075@lemmy.zip 2025-12-04 12:19
Remember that any advice from your parents (or anyone over 30, apparently) is, at best, 20 years past its best by date. Doesn’t mean it’s not still good, but give it a sniff test.
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@NihilsineNefas@slrpnk.net 2025-12-04 12:23
“Treat every computer like you’re in a library and the head librarian is stood behind you with someone in a very plain black suit next to them” Pretty much another bit of “Don’t put anything personally identifying on the internet, you don’t know who wants that information or why, but you know they’ll be able to take it if they want to” kinda advice. (Thankfully haven’t learned that one the hard way, just heard it and now it’s stuck.)
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@selokichtli@lemmy.ml 2025-12-04 12:49
Younger generations? Find your fucking way out of wild capitalism. You deserve to have a home, free time and mental health.